checked pc history and husband to be registered with online dating/sex site...

[bloodyidiot]

Am a regular who has namechanged.

I feel sick. went away on saturday for one night. came yesturday and DP has gone away till thursday with work and has left his laptop (is a boozy work jolly abroad so didnt need it)

I'm not sure why I felt compelled to do this but I am glad I did. He registered with some online sex website where you flirt and potentially meet women. From what I can see he has only been in twice and hasn't 'chatted' with anyone but still...its fucking awful isn't it.

We are supposed to be getting married in less than 3 months and we have a nearly 4 year old together I sent him a text saying 'darling i think maybe we should have a chat when you get back from I... about why you have registered with an online sex website'

he is obviously horrified and has been calling and texting how sorry he is and he was bored and its nothing and he loves me blah blah blah

I just feel sick. Also it just seems so seedy. I thought he was better than that. Oh and the funniest fucking thing is that he has put his age as 31 not 35!!! vain twat

advice please lovely ladies?

MrsLemon: Your partner's behavour doesn't actually justify your unpleasant comments about other women. They don't owe you anything. He is the one who is decieving you.

What amazes me is the women who will put up with all manner of violence and bullying and dunkindness and then finally flip over the man looking for sex elsewhere - I can't see why anyone would want to keep any of these horrible men. Let them go and find either nicer ones, or an enjoyable life without one.

SA dont worry bout the hi-jack, the more the merrier

he has just sent me this text 'there is nothing in my life that i could ever value more than you. I love you. I love our family and i seriously hope we can start to talk about his more. It was a nothing that could ruin our lives'

mrs lemon, that is awful. that level of deceit must be truely horrific. Just seeing my DP had even looked on this site made me feel sick. You poor love-do you think you will leave him?

Solidgold

The woman do deserve my comments. When they tell me they love any old cock to bounce off - their words not mine and they dont give a fuck if I am pregnant because they needed my husbands face on their wet pussy, perhaps if I had not got myself pregnant I could service my own husband etc etc, then I think they desrve to be called munters, whores and anything else I fancy. Do really nice ladies looking for a future husband/meaningful relationship on these sites really call themselves "mrscummuncher" and "mypussyneedscock"??? Whether these women holes are shagging married men or bloke free to fuck what they like, they look and come across as whores!!

Why are you so offended by what I call these sex providers?

I am not CHOOSING to be with my husband. Unfortunately we find ourselves in situation where for either one of us to leave atm would be hellish. I am biding my time for the sake of a serious illness in the family. Not for one moment have I forgiven the liar and selfish bastard cheat. Nor have I moved the blame onto the internet freeby whores!

BI - yes I very prolly will! There is so much other stuff going on atm in the family it would purely selfish to put the kids under any more trauma just now!

MrsLemon, the reason I asked why you were still together is because you seem to have sooooo much hate for him (understandably, he sounds like a right dirty bastard)

I thought there must be extenuating circumstances beyond your control, because no-one deserves to be treated like that and have to still live with the perpetrator

I am sorry

jesus chriiiist, she is lucky she didn't end up dead !

Dont be sorry for asking! Its not something I like to shout about from the rooftops in real life. Its sometimes nice (dunno if that is the right word "nice") to be able to talk about it!

BI - really hope you can get through this. I dont want to make you see bad stuff that isnt happening in your relationship/situation. Like I said in my 1st reply - blokes go for a look but then can be dragged deeper and deeper in. No excuse - FGS, mens willys seem to rule their bloody lives!! Your partner may have been just having a look and nothing else. If you decide to stick together after you have discussed it and come to some kind of resolve, dont let it eat you up (says she bitter as hell LOL) but dont totally totally forget it has ever happend either. I am not saying you should snoop but perhaps just be aware, dont leave the blinkers on!

Been here myself. Pain and shock is incredible. My DP excuses were:

Just bored
Liked the attention
Got addicted
Was just fantasy

etc etc.

Went from 'they contacted me' to 'ok i emailed bavk' to 'ok i initiated contact' to 'ok i spoke to them on phone' to 'ok i arranged dates but didnt turn up'

Who knows where we will end up tmrw?!

I'm 'a bit' over it, was a while ago now and he's great in every other respect. However, the pain and lack of trust never really goes away.

These sites are quite dangerous. Now I have no problem with my boyf looking at mucky ladies (he has a bit of a madonna whore complex which is a matter of ongoing discussion between us) but then I do trust him completely not to do anything more than look.

He once stupidly dabbled on one of these sites. He said he wanted to look at the fallen women . I looked into what happens: you're allowed to browse, then several gorgeous women start emailing you asking you questions about yourself etc. You can't message them back unless you sign up and pay. I think this is where the being bored bit comes in. After you've paid you never hear from them again. Hence you feel a bit of a twat to have responded to a computer-generated scam using photos of 'real' women that are just pulled from porn sites.

I was very angry but he had not done anything apart from waste £60 and up his junk mail by 400%.

Perhaps a hypnotic vapour is emitted from the Internet that turns men into twats?