You are not a cow minx - you are knackered!! Got out of the swing of things. What are you asking here is? Is it OK not to feel like it, or how can i feel like it more? It is legitimate to not want it and you are not a cow, but actually i don;t think it is OK. Not about your DH, about you - you get a great deal of closeness from intimacy and it is worth making the effort sometimes as the more you do it, the more you want it.
Is HE aware of how you feel, might he be just pressing the wrong buttons. Following the same routines etc? TELL him how you feel, you just need to spice things up again - tell him that you feel pressurised when he cuddles you so that when he does cuddle you, you know you are not under pressure and well, you never know .
Its easy to get into a rut, and often i feel the same - but i can;t go two weeks, would go mad!
What about some erotic fiction - im reading the secret diary of a call girl (DP is liking that!!!!) but that is a bit full on and has lots of S&M in it so not everyones cup of tea. But whatever floats your boat - if mills and boon puts you in the mood then read that
Agree with whoever said make the effort with a nice evening together (and when you tell me how you work out how to achieve that come back and tell me!!!) bottle of wine always juices things up so to speak. Can you not get someone to babysit, go out for a meal? Thats our classic, out for an indian, sex on the beach . Yes, even in midwinter!
I know how you feel, im on medication that really takes the edge off things for me, both in terms of wanting it and sensation. I dont always have an orgasm, but I don't mind that really - if i get frustrated, thats what my fingers are for .
Really important that you talk to DH about this though, otherwise he is going to feel rejected. But if you talk to him and say you are tired, in a rutt - you never know, he might come over all mr lovva lovva and be all romantic.