I'm a bit miffed at this. I have had only one night out with no kids in the 3 months since DS was born.
I've just signed up for a yoga every Thursday evening for 8 weeks, each class lastin 8.30-10.
As it happens my DH is away for a long fun filled weekend started on the Thursday my yoga class starts. I don't mind this but friends of ours have offered to babysit to allow me to go to the first class. Great I thought, but DH is now sayinh that he's not comfortable with this as (his words) "DS tends to cry a lot" and it's too far for them to travel for 2 hours babysitting (they live about 6 miles away)
This was my reply:
No disrespect but that's easy for you to say. You were quite prepared to ask MY sis in law if she would look after DS so that we could go to a party with no kids and that would have been for a longer period of time and she had only offered to look after DD. So why the change of heart?
I didn't go chasing anyone to babysit or drop hints so if someone offers then I think it's patronising to then go and say that we're not comfortable with it and to assume that it is too far. If it was too far then they wouldn't have offered.
I don't mind missing the first class if there was no-one around but when someone has actually offered I think it would look even more silly to say well DH wasn't happy about it, yeah he's the one away for the weekend and who spends a lot of time away with work. I on the other hand, was fine with it, yeah she's the one who has had only one evening away from the kids since DS was born and has been left alone to look after them quite a bit.
I'm just saying it as I believe others would view it. If you were in my position then you wouldn't be so judgmental about who could and could not look after kids to allow you your time.
How do I make him see that he's being unfair and making me feel like a total dogsbody whilst his free time is unaffected?