Hi sparky, Thanks for your msg. I expect you're right about his empathy levels not being what they should, just get used this sort of thing till it becomes the norm i suppose. He actually as good as admitted that on the phone yesterday but we've been here before and following the words with action is another thing (god I've become so cynical!!). I haven't actually tried asking him for the best time surprisingly enough - seems so obvious now, but i pretty much work as things come up on the spur of the moment. I think to set aside planned time is a good idea.
What is it with men and REAL communication? Mars and venus i suppose...Is your separation due to work? Must be hard when you feel you are the one making all of the effort, i can v much relate, I take it you have told him how important that is for you and that you need him to make that effort over the distance?
I work part time, 3 days a week, tend to catch up on everything else the rest of the week. Spend evenings on net, tv and reading - usually so knackered by that time! (dd is 2 and half) I have plenty of interests outside the house and have good friends who i tend to catch up with when dp home. I've never had too much of prob being alone but of course it can be quite lonely aswell (I've had some weekends of no other adult company and can be almost stir crazy by monday!!). He tends to forget that things can be tough for me too in those 3 weeks. How do you fill in your time sparky? Together is hardly done and i know we need to make effort there, we both say as much but never do, i'm probably as much to blame tbh.
See how things go next trip home... thanks.
Macdoodle, yes effort on both parts, this is the key, been too much of imbalance in pretty much every area for us to even begin to do this i think. Good to hear fr another on the offshore treadmill!
How are you Muthahubbard? How crap for you i'm sure you have good friends around you (& you do on here!), we find the strength from somewhere.. thinking of you.