My dad died

[glastocat]

I'm a long time lurker but don't post much. Tonight I got a bit worried because I emailed my dad on Monday night and just realised today I got no answer. Emailed again at lunch time, stil, no answer. Tried to phone tonight ( normally ring him every Thursday, but its month end tomorrow and have to work late so thought I'd be too wrecked to chat tomorrow). Got no answer. Called hospital, then cops. They got no answer. Kicked his door in, they found him dead in the bathroom. He was only 63. He wasn't in great health, but never had been so am in shock a bit I think. Not sure why I'm posting, am on second bottle of wine. can't sleep. feel very weird and dreading it all, I'm the only child, he lives on his own, has no friends. Can't even contact his two brothers. Fucking fuck . Any words of help much appreciated.

Oh, I'm so sorry I live in fear of this happening to my dad.

I hope you have some support in RL. Try to get some sleep.

Thanks. yes, I do have RL support, just its been a hell of a night and while Iknow I need sleep it feels like a million miles away. Have to drive 300 miles North tomorrow though, so thats going to be fun. or rather husband does. Fucking arsing bollocks. Can't believe the old bugger is dead.

So sorry to hear this, glastocat
hope you can get a bit of rest before the long drive tomorrow
it must be tough if you are the only child with everything to organise. take care of yourself
also hope you manage to contact his brothers. do they live far away?

Yes, brothers also live 300 or so miles away. I'm going to neck a sleeping tab now, wine is just not working. No doubt will be up early. Going to let childminder take sprog to school, no point in telling him his grandad sausage is dead until we have to. []

Also have to phone both brothers in the morning and dad's work ( he freelances, so they won't have missed him).

I am so sorry to hear of your pain. I think you shouldn't be alone dear. Try to rest and then have someone come over. >Hugs

Am so very sorry. Hope you manage to get some sleep in the car x

am so sorry to hear this sad news. very hard situation. wishing you strength x

So sorry that you have lost your Dad, hope that all the arrangements are straight forward and that you can the support you need. Much love

I am so sorry for your loss.

Is there anything we can do?

. Very sorry for your loss.

Do you know what he actually died from? You may need to prepare yourself for them doing an autopsy if not.

sorry for the loss of your dad,look afteryourself

looks like my uncle is identifying the body and an autopsy looks likely too. Going to phone his work now, he retired last year but was still freelancing.

Sorry for your loss

Oh no, how very sad. Thinking of you xx

No idea yet what he died from, he had asthma TB and only one kidney, so he wasn't the healthiest. HE SAW THE NURSE FOR A CHECK UP LAST WEEK AND SHE SAAID HE WAS FINE. Ooops sorry for caps. I suppose there will be an autopsy. Feeling very weird and wobbly today.

So sorry to hear what has happened.

Exactly the same thing happened to my mother. I phoned for a few days, started to get worried, then the police had to break in and she was dead on the floor. It was so sudden and shocking. My mother had also seen the dr the day before and had been fine, she was a fit 60 year old. She had a heart attack. One of the things at the time (probably because of the shock) that I was most worried about was going to her house and how much mess there might be. That part wasnt as bad as I had thought tho. The police were really very good, as was everyone involved. If there are any questions I can answer for you please ask.

Sorry glastocat. I hope you are finding strength from somewhere today. It must be terribly hard for you.

The bereavement charity Cruise really helped a friend of mine deal with coping with her emotions following her mother's death.

So sorry, Glastocat.

So sorry Glasto...take care.

very sorry for your loss

Can't add anything except to say you are in my thoughts and prayers.