Feel so bad about this DH is an awful kisser

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This is embarrasing and I am sure I will come over so badly here.

I love my DH so much, I love sex with him and hugging him but I really don't like kissing him. He is very slobbery and over enthusiastic. I have done some gentle directions and he knows that he is very wet when he kisses me but its still no good. It feels like kisses felt when I was a teenager - sort of washing machiney.

I feel so bad that I don't enjoy kissing him I almost instinctivly turn my head when he goes to I feel like such a bitch for it but I am not sure what to do.

This is kissing with tongues of course, we do lots of kissing on the lips without tongues.

Can't help- but it made me smile- I have the same problem! My DH is useless too - but I wonder if he always was, otherwise we wouldn't have got together...???
He just "pecks" on the lips and then tries to put his mouth all round mine in a really odd way. We haven't had a proper kiss for years. Needless to say, we don't get much further either.

Is there a course we can send them on?

not quite as severe, but I hear you... am listening for advice.

Tell him to stop kissing you and that you will kiss him. Kiss him the way you would want to be kissed. And then ask him whether it turns him on.

Men give those big slobbery wet kisses because it arouses them.

BA- but how can you? They have to move their mouths a bit don't they, even if we do most of the work?

You can tell him that he is allowed to follow your lead and copy what you are doing (like dance partners in reverse IYSWIM) but not allowed to take any initiative.

LOL

Can my DH join the course too? VEM's DH's technique sounds similar to my DH's

I have tried your training technique Anna, but I can't get past knowing that he doesn't find kissing that much of a turn-on, so it seems a bit pointless.

How about getting him to kiss other parts of you instead?

Can I send my DP on the course too

Other parts is ok- but nothing beats a good snog.

Thank you for the replies, I thought I might get flamed actually.

Kissing on other places is fine but I would like to give him a quick snog without feeling like my mouth is being washed out sometimes.

I have tried taking the lead and encouraging him not to do much but god love him he starts to get carried away.

I know it is a sore point for him and I feel so guilty because he is a lovely man.

I have kissed some fantastic kissers in the past and if I am frank I really miss it, I just need to transpose their lips into his body!

know excalty what you mean

i chucked my 1st boyfriend as he was a slobbery kisser - he was so wet and would leave a snail trail across my face which was horrid!!!

i do love a real kissing session and lots of tonuges etc but its no good if you are drowning in slobber

not sure how to solve the problem tbh

this is all you need

I don't understand how you married someone who is a terrible kisser?

Can't you just try to lead him to kiss you in the way that you like?
Encouragement by the right noises etc and if that fails a simple sit down?

Non kissing isn't the way forward in mho

Thought it was just me that felt this way . What a relief!

I don't know what advice to give. One of my ex's (not that there are many) told me what she wanted in step by step format.

It's been some years back now, but what I do remember was being told to lay back, copy her mouth and kiss parts of her mouth, over and over till I got the step right.

The one step moved to two steps, then onto 3 and so on.

One thing I do remember was while I was "learning" she was wanting to kiss more and forgetting to teach me, so there were a fair few ups and downs in that process.

I don't know how long it took me to get to doing something right but I would say it was months.

The wet kissing - I might be able to shed some light on that. I am all for kissing as a person wants to be kissed but I don't swallow. The saliva builds up and up and then goes all over. I don't like the gobbyness of the kiss but I the desire to not swallow is much stronger. I just don't like the thought of ingesting another person's saliva. I did find that if you can get your hands on atropine sulphate, that stops saliva and makes my mouth dry. The only moisture is that coming from the woman's mouth, which solved the wet problem and made the kisses more dry. There is a draw back in this. I was in a position where I needed to keep kissing till the atropine wore off (a bit of an exaggeration), but that atropine right drys your mouth out.

Actually, I have to add. At the time I didn't want to swallow. I suspect that part of the reason was that she smoked and I didn't, though I don't think I would have been different if she didn't smoke.

That girl friend and I split and another one was pleased with the way we kissed. With her I felt that I could swallow our saliva. That might have made a diffrence.

Yuck Yuck Yuck

It is possible togetonwithout kissing if it is that bad.

Hmm - I have only come across two good kissers and I have kissed quite a few in my time. Neither did I have a relationship with. One was a gorgeous American hunk probably the best looking man I have ever encountered. I reckon he had masses of experience with women despite being only 20. Tragically, at the age of just 18, I was too much of a prude to allow him to go beyond just kissing. My loss!! The other one was a stranger in a bar. I was sitting with a group and one of my friends was being chatted up by one of his friends. After a while he asked, "do you mind if I kiss you" it seemed churlish to say no. Wow!! As good as the American hunk. Never saw him again but I should have told him what a good kisser he was. On the other hand, he probably knew, which is why he was so confident.

You know what is strange, I can't quite remember what made them so good, there was something kind of effortless about it and definitely not slobbery. YUK that is just gross!

I have only ever come across one bad kisser.. he wasn't so hot in bed either.

others have just been to die for.. they have kissed in such a way that it will make you buckle at the knees and feel dissapointed if it didn't go further... they have also been fantasic lovers. ( disclaimer.. I haven't bedded everyone i have kissed LOL)

mr bad kisser.. well the only way to stop him being quite so enthusiastic was to dip my forehead down.. thus pulling my mouth a bit away form his.. has slowing him down.

kissing is a dance an erotic dance between partners. it should be a good thing.. not a washing machine!

mmm nice final thought there BCNS
personally have always enjoyed snogging with the taste of beer and fags
but guess i just like slightly bad boys lol.

ehhh N1 that sounds horrible, yuck

bet you preferred my beer and fags bad boys image inthemist lol

N1, you are seriously weird, mate

Poor old N1 is trying to be helpful, don't give him a hard time!

helpful?

some old shit about taking drugs to dry up saliva???

the man is a feckwit