Feel so bad about this DH is an awful kisser

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This is embarrasing and I am sure I will come over so badly here.

I love my DH so much, I love sex with him and hugging him but I really don't like kissing him. He is very slobbery and over enthusiastic. I have done some gentle directions and he knows that he is very wet when he kisses me but its still no good. It feels like kisses felt when I was a teenager - sort of washing machiney.

I feel so bad that I don't enjoy kissing him I almost instinctivly turn my head when he goes to I feel like such a bitch for it but I am not sure what to do.

This is kissing with tongues of course, we do lots of kissing on the lips without tongues.

The drug is used as an anti allergic reaction. Apart from that it's harmless (assuming you don't misuse it).

The drug use was not a solution for me, it was an attempt to see if wet kissing vs more dry was helpful to me (and the girl). I wouldn't want to make a had it of using a drug and if the dry mouth made things better then I know what the final aim was, I would just need to find a way to get there, probably through a process of elimination. A drug is not a solution in my mind.

I don't mind the hard time. I over look some of the comments, if I know they are not relevant.

gah

help me out, you two!

I am losing the will to live 'ere

BOF, get over to the Relocation thread

jesus, me too. I randomly think about doing something about it and then I forget. I hardly ever kiss DH properly. Even when He goes to just give me a kiss goodbye I somehow manage to have no contact with his lips at all and hit his teeth straight away. It's like he hasn't realised that lips are a fairly important part of the proceedings and that no one just wants to have to take on a tongue with no preamble, if you see what I mean.

I always end up wiping my face after any kind of kiss, it's awful, I feel so bad and I don't want to upset him. Still, a bit of an uncomfortable conversation has to be better than 60 more years of no kissing at all, hasn't it?

sorry to be rather blunt.... but i just wouldnt / couldnt have married someone who was a truly crap kisser.... bleugh.

Am with controlfreaky on this. Haven't experienced the grown-up version of the teenage snog (slobbery washing machine), but I did have a fling with a distinguished older chap (who should have known better) who kissed so hard that the pressure gave me neck ache. There was no tenderness; no gentleness. Just full on pushing at me with his mouth/tongue/head. Horrible. I felt almost assaulted. Fling lasted, erm, not very long at all!

Of course it isn't the be-all-and-end-all, but a lovely kiss is not to be sniffed at. Google "how to kiss" and see if there's anything useful on there? And I suppose, what with give and take and all, if your DH likes kissing the way he already does, sometimes you're going to have to do it his way, if you want him to do it yours.

I can't remember the last time I had a passionate kiss but then I am going through a divorce! however I'm seeing someone on Saturday so wonder if we'll have a kiss? Reading this thread has got me all panicky, supposing I'm crap at it because I'm out of practice. (Sorry hope I'm not hijacking).
So do women dish out loads of saliva and is there a way to prevent this?