Right, have been putting off posting here cos i thought i might get shouted at but here goes.
He hasn't gone and i haven't made him. After alot of talking he decided to go and see his doctor. Last year he was perscribed ad's (much needed imo) and he wouldn't take them. I knew he was depressed and so did he but wouldn't do anything about it.
Anyway the doc told him off for not taking them and gave him some more and he is takiung them.
I have told him that this no way means we are staying together but I do want to see if this will change things. One of the major probs was that he was always in a mood and peed off about something, and the smallest things could drag him down, in turn dragging me down too.
I have told him that the relationship at the mo is on a monthly review for at least the next 6mths. If at any time during that 6 mths I decided it is over, then he will move out and go and stay with his brother.
He has agreed and so far is trying hard to make things work. I am also trying to, not spending as much time on here in the evenings and basically we are just talking alot more.
I know alot of you will think i'm mad for letting him stay and Yes i might be BUT I have to see if this will make any difference before i give up.
I know i've said i don't love him but the fact is I once risked losing my entire family for this man so obviously once i did love him, alot of things have changed since then and mostly for the worse. The fact is that since we got together other factors in our realtionship have pulled us further and further apart.
I have to be sure in my heart and my mind that us splitting up is the right thing to do, and at the mo I couldn't say i am sure.
I will apologise for what some may see as me wasting your time. I do appreciate every single bit of advice i've been given and am grateful that people cared enough to help.
Nutty xxxxxxxxx