Going to be nicer to my decent dh!

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I got up this morning and after 20 mins of pottering around the house, I realised that almost every thought I had was some kind of criticism of my DH (he cooked dinner, but didn't do the dishes, put a cork on the half finished bottle of wine, but left all the glasses on the coffee table), and all I kept focussing on was what he hadn't done, rather than what he did do.

He is a lovely man, and this week, I'm going to consciously remind myself that I chose to spend my life with him because he's great....and I am not going to turn into a grumbling gorgon.

Anyone else want to join me in 'be nice to DH week?'

My DH is lovely too and I need to try harder

He cooks and does most of the early morning starts with DD. He sat in a hotel room with DD (12 months) on Saturday night so that I could party with my cousin for her 30th, and then got up with DD and took her to the hotel bar so that I could lie in bed until 8am.

But I moan and ask why he is always watching Top Gear repeats and why he never talks to me etc etc (I think I talk too much).

He looked after DD today on my first day back at work and I got home early because of the snow and I fell out with him because he had let her have a morning nap and she then refused to sleep at lunch (I did tell him this but he didn't listen but its hardly the end of the world). Ooooopppps.

Actually we are snapping at one another now. I might just go to bed.

Sign me up too! Small things that irritate me overshadow the fact that he does some quite big and self sacrificing things for me and has put up with SO much from me for years and years but stayed with me! We should let the little stuff go shouldn't we!

Put me down too, dh currently outside freezing his ass off at work while I sit on mn with a mountain of jobs to do, will log off soon and god them feeling guilty now

*go do them

Goddess your DH sounds very similar to mine. And you sound similar to me (except that with my DH it is him telling me the finer details of who produced some album or directed an obscure film that cause me to glaze over).

oh yes think i need to join.

this weekend he has:

put all the clean dry clothes away (including the DC,s even tho its part of their job for spends-i told him off for doing that ).

picked up my nieces and brought them here for tea and then dropped them off without moaning.

watched you,ve been framed and tv burp with DS (even tho it drives him MAD) as DS loves watching those programmes with him.

Bathed DD and washed her hair to give me a break.

Washed up numerous times without me asking.

made me cups of tea

and ive been hormonal and ranting and nagging about him leaving his shoes in the front room and i feel terrible,he really is very good,and im going to be very nice to him.

The Provincial Lady - if we were being REALLY nice we would read our posts to our DHs to make them feel appreciated but no way will I, as that would be revealing weakness!

Yep. Sign me up.

DH picked up the shopping on the way home from work, so I could avoid going out in the snow, and I found myself criticising the carrots (in my head) FFS! But at least I realised I was being a nit-picking bee-atch!

And at the weekend he worked his nuts off decorating our backroom so me & the DC have somewhere more cheery to sit and while away the winter afternoons...

And now he is lying on the sofa with Man Flu, watching Fifth Gear with a blanket over him up to his neck, looking all sorry for himself, poor love. Will be extra nice to him - and he'll wonder if I have driven the car into a hedge (again)!

TheGoddessBlossom - too right. Don't want them to think they are indespensible

Comes round slightly and reaches for the smelling salts gin.

Couldn't do that. No way. It's sad, but it really is much easier 9for meat least) to becritical and concentrate on the things he doesn't do.

Occasionally, after an exceptionally large glass of wine, I do tell him how lovely he is but I am sure that he takes that with a huge pinch of salt...

For those unused to my atrocious typing

9for meat least = (for me at least)

I text him that I love him quite often. And tell him. But do act OUTRAGED if he ever accuses me of not giving him my undivided, even though I know I rarely do.

Oh Goddess we are evil twins separated at birth

At least 80% of my carping only takes place in my head, luckily for DH.

Update - told him about the thread last night.

He went a bit pale .....

Bless, this is a brilliant thread. My DH is lovely too and I got all snappy with him this morning and now I'm going to ring him and apologise. xxx

Why Bella?

Am I the only one who is getting a bit annoyed that DH hasn't acknowledged the fact that I am being extra nice to him?! I even asked about his man flu cold this morning, which is completely unheard of for me. He probably thinks I'm having an affair or something!

I am joining too...

My DH is incapable of putting clothes away, filling / putting on / emptying dish washer, putting shoes / coats away, picking up discarded pants on floor and putting them into laundry basket, changing cat litter tray without being reminded (am 34 wks pregnant) etc etc.

But honestly, are those things really important? They all add up, and I do find myself running around always cleaning and tidying up after him, but he's so brilliant in every other way. He loves me to pieces, even though I moan and only put out once a week (I AM 34 weeks pregnant though - I used to be a lot more giving in that dept when I wasn't harbouring an alien). He tells me he loves me about 6 times a day (without being over the top mushy), and he gave me a lovely back massage yesterday.

He would go to the end of the world and back for me.... (but won't pick up his pants, grr).

Oh and I am hideous about his parents, even though they mean well, and he rarely rises to the bait. They (PIL) offered for us to come to a gite with them in France for a week in June (when first baby will be about 3 months old) and I said "I would rather chew my own eyeballs on than go on holiday with them".

I am a cow.

lol, Boobz - I think we are married to the same man!

I did my bit this morning - fished out some extra strong lemsip from the back of the cupboard when he couldn't find them for his man flu. And I put a choccie biccie in his packed lunch.

Still a long way to go though, I fear....

Definitely not letting DH read this thread after Boobz admission of "putting out" only once a week!! DH would feel he was being royally short-changed!

You see, I really don't think I am that bad when it comes to the nookie situation, reading all the comments on MN, but DH does think he's hard done by. He said the other day, whilst sitting on the sofa kind of half laughing at my beached-whaleness... "I can't wait until things go back to normal and I get my sexy wife back again".

Admittedly I did used to dress up in rubber and swing from Chandeliers, but still, I don't think he does too badly.

See, that lasted all of 3.5 hours. Will have to start again now.

I WILL BE NICED TO DH, starting NOW.

I find all that swinging from chandeliers really does my back in now, don't you, Boobz?

Alright then, I never really swung from the chandeliers, but I did dress up in rubber (see new photo on profile - there for a limited time only)

Cripes I used to have good legs.

Crikey, Boobz -you're hot! Not my type exactly - bit lacking in the penis/deep voice/stubbly chin departments, I fear, but a darn fine looking woman!