If your DH/DP had to go away with work for your b'day how would you feel?

[lostinnappies]

just that really - he can't get out of it

Id feel sad, but its not his fault.

been there done that

more than twice

he was in the navy

felt a little sad but he always rang

Pissed off but resigned to the fact that it wasn't his fault.

I would however be expecting an extra special present and night out to make up for it!

I am getting so,old that tbh birthdays don't bother me that much.

Would be more upset about Christmas or little ones birthdays tbh.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I don't bother with my birthday anyway and it's not his fault. DH has missed my last 2 birthdays through work.

Resigned. If he can't get out of it, he can't get out of it. No point in getting upset.

Disappointed but I'd get a babysitter or get some friends round and kick my heels up all the same.

I remember (before the war!) dh had to work on the night of my 30th at the last minute. And we were due to go to the ballet (BIG sacrifice on dh's part). I rounded up everyone from work and got pissed instead. It was actually great fun.

Then dh took me away the following weekend so it was all quite nice.

Sometimes shit happens in life.

A bit disappointed and I would celebrate at the weekend instead

It wouldn't bother me at all but I'm not that bothered about my birthday nowadays. If it was one of the DC's birthdays I'd be upset.

what podrick said

disappointed, but make other arrangement.s

A bit disappointed but no point having a row about it as he wouldn't want to be away either.

i feel a bit gutted tbh - we have had a bumpy couple of months and a new baby and i have been looking forward to my birthday.

I can tell he feels really bad - I don't want to let on on too much because I don't want to make him feel worse. It's not his fault and we are lucky he still has work right now.

but FFS !!!!!

I'd be fine. I've missed dp's birthday because of work a couple of times - and my own! But I'd want flowers AND chocolates!

you might have guessed that this is the first time we have missed a birthday !!

we have been together 10 years

Wouldn't bother me - it's only a day, celebrate before or after. I would be pissy if he didn't ring on the day but, other than that, I wouldn't get hung up about it.

Take your baby out somewhere nice.

had this happen few times was fine about it we did something when he came back and before he went

its different as an adult its not about cake and parties its just another day id happily spend it in doors and do something as if its on a week day i wait till weekend anyway

we have also missed few valentines too only found this bothered me after having my ds as i needed the extra reassurance now im like we eat take away and make love any day

the same as your b day yes its your b day but it can be celebrated later i dont think ive actually ever celebrated my bday on my bday always before or after

could you have lunch with family and do something when he comes home really not time for guilt trips though if you have to work then you have to if he could be there he would but you can still do something when he gets back

have a happy birthday meet friends and have fun and look forward to his return to have more fun x

thanks everyone - not angry with him at all just disappointed but these happen.

just need ideas about what i can do whilst he is away .....

me thinking lots of shopping ... new hair cut ... nice meal with family.

these things happen

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It is disappointing, but try to think of it as just having your birthday on a different date this year and have the whole celebration/night out etc on a different day!

My DH is always working on my birthday. I either get a babysitter and go out or have all my friends round for good food, wine and gossip.

wouldn't bother me at all, in fact i'm hoping dh will completely forget my 40th.

when he's away, i usually try and have some girlfriends round for an evening either for a meal, or last time we watched mamma mia on dvd.