If your DH/DP had to go away with work for your b'day how would you feel?

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just that really - he can't get out of it

Doesn't bother me, DH has worked on all of my birthdays so far. We just make a day/night of it either before or after when he is off.

When it happened to us I was fine because he looked so worried about it We managed to work it so I could go too, but was before children so easier to do. Not a disaster, treat yourself to something indulgent and celebrate together later.

Same situation with my LO here and the first Bday he's missed. Given the current economic situation, it's not a buyer's market and he's lucky to have a job, I was okay with it...gnarling my teeth, but hey...he did make up for it with nappy duty, prezzies and loads of us time.

Relax and let him make it up to you when he gets back. He probably feels worse than you.

You can have a lovely celebration with him afterwards and call it your 'birthday celebration' - after all the date isn't really important, just the feeling special, 'this is my day' sort of thing.

We often have to time-shift birthday celebrations in our family for one reaon of logistics or another, in fact this year I'm having it a full 9 days before the 'real' date, so it wouldn't bother me a bit, but I sympathise that it's making you sad.

But since he can't help it and it's in a good cause, give yourself a lovely treat on the actual day - good DVD, box of chocs, glass of wine - and then treat the designated celebration day as if it were your birthday - now, don't put it to one side and think 'well we won't bother since he won't be here on the Actual Day' - you deserve that day of feeling special so make sure you get it!

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

If it bothers you then do something nice together when he gets back . It's just a day.

I wouldn't be bothered if it was for work and couldn't be helped...if it was yet another stag do and/or one of his geriatric football tours that would be another matter entirely!

Glad he had a job.

probably grateful for a bit of peace and quiet

I wouldn't worry about it, I would just postpone whatever celebrations we were having till he got back, and if possible would have one without him too! Two parties in the hand better than one hubby in the bush

Not remotely bothered by such things.

God I'd be delighted. Would look to farm out ds as well and have a day to myself tbh.

Would't bother me at all. I'm a grown up.

It's one of those things isn't it?

Before we met, DH had to work the nightshift on his 21st, now that's unfortunate.

i would ask him how much money he is getting and remind him to bring me back a prezzie

and then arrange to get wankered with mi mates.

I would probably be quietly pleased as he would be so overcome with guilt I would get some superb extra presents!

wouldn't bother me at all. I think it's a big weird when adults make a huge song & dance about birthdays.