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Does your DH wear a wedding ring?

156 replies

SkiBunnyFlummy · 06/04/2005 09:42

If you have a DH of course.

Do you mind if he does or not.

We are getting married this summer and my DF (? hee hee ) doesn't fancy wearing one as he already wears a signet ring (currently lost actually) and his dad doesn't wear one.

I'm not sure if I care or not. In some respects I think it might make him think twice before he stepped outside our marriage vows. Or it might put single chicks off - but then some singlies target married men don't they.

I'm not paranoid but he is a good looking bloke. well primarily he is a bloke so there is bound to be some temptation during a marriage.

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Tortington · 06/04/2005 23:28

mine doesn't becuase it got cut off in A&E after a fight outside a club about 8 years ago !

but he used to. i like wearing mine as i feel proud to. he was going to get another - but it wasnt the same and be just never bothered.

Frizbe · 06/04/2005 23:28

Yep he does!

PotPourri · 06/04/2005 23:57

Dh doesn't as he does manual work and it's dangerous if it gets cought in machinery. He has one though. Also it hurt his joint when he did wear it on honeymoon, think it was so big tha tit was stopping him bending his finger ro soemthing. I'm not the least bit bothered if he wears it or not though. It does occasionally cross my mind that people might think I am having an affair as I have a ring and he doesn't . At the late stages of pregnancy when I was elephant sized I didn't wear one either and I must admit I missed it. Old fashioned, but I feel proud, like it's a sign I have found the love of my life. STrange that I am not bothered about DH showing that too really....

CarrieG · 07/04/2005 00:14

Dh has matching silver band to mine - the whole deal would've been even cheaper if not for his Z+ hugenormous, bass player fingers!

I quite like the fact that he's safely branded, whereas my ring tends to get lost in a fistful of silver nonsense quite a lot of the time.

Linnet · 07/04/2005 00:21

My dh wears a wedding ring, it matches mine Silver and titanium band.

My dad doesn't wear a wedding ring and I remember my stepmum mentioning it when dh and I announced that we were getting married and had bought our rings. " Oh did you hear that xxx, rings, plural!" Said with a very pointed look, lol

My grandad didn't wear a wedding ring either now that I think about it.

AussieSim · 07/04/2005 00:58

Yep, diamond studded Cartier - fancier than mine - feels lost without it. I am glad he is a wedding ring wearer... No manual work though.

eldestgirl · 07/04/2005 06:13

We had matching rings with each other's names and date of the wedding inscribed in the middle. Then DH went surfing in very cold rough ocean in Oz and lost his!I said it didn't matter (though I loved exchanging rings when we got married) but he insisted he had to have another one. We bought a replacement in a second hand shop in Perth, and had it inscribed. He is always taking it on and off when he is thinking so I expect he'll have to have another replacement one day... which would be good because I got another ring too in Perth. A really pretty dress ring!

cod · 07/04/2005 07:38

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Twiglett · 07/04/2005 08:01

DH shows his love for me by waking me with a kiss and sending me off swimming for a couple of hours without kids

I know which I'd prefer

lockets · 07/04/2005 08:06

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Twiglett · 07/04/2005 08:09

By the time I got home, he'd got a full roast dinner on the go too .. do I win?

lockets · 07/04/2005 08:12

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iota · 07/04/2005 08:42

my dh waers a ring and takes the boys swimming and cooks Sunday dinner - do I win?

lockets · 07/04/2005 08:46

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SeaShells · 07/04/2005 08:49

Me and dp have matching bands, and we aren't even married! They show our dedication to one another, we have been together 8 years this week, but still haven't made it up the aisle!

aloha · 07/04/2005 09:34

My dh takes the baby at six am and gives me another hour and a half's kip every morning. He takes the children, has a day off work every week to do childcare, tells me he loves me every day, cooks dinner five nights out of seven, fixes the computer, did half the nights with ds ( horrible sleeper unlike dd).
I think that'll do me!

aloha · 07/04/2005 09:35

Oh, and he does tea bath and bed for ds AND dd while I loaf about (only I do dd's tea!! She's only 8weeks).

flamesparrow · 07/04/2005 09:38

DP tried to convince me that his fingers were too stumpy and that it would look silly... he's still getting a ring!!!

It is a symbol of love and commitment, and the whole entirey, never ending unity type thing. Yes, I know it won't make any difference to him cooking dinner or anything, but to me, it is part of marriage.

cod · 07/04/2005 09:40

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iota · 07/04/2005 09:43

Wedding rings for men are a comparatively new idea - it certainly wasn't common when my parents were married in teh 50's.

Found this article on google:

Unlike many wedding practices that have obscure origins, the American double ring ceremony can be traced to the 1940s and 1950s when the jewelry industry invented the tradition of the groom's wedding band and the marrying public adopted it with a vengeance. (2) The popularization of this tradition, however, is not merely a story of hapless brides and grooms influenced by advertising, buying new types of consumer goods as soon as they appeared in jeweler's windows displayed in new contraptions such as the Rings-O-Bliss tray that allowed retailers to show the two wedding bands together as a set. (3) The wedding industry was only able to transform mid-twentieth century practices when the goods and their accompanying rituals fit consumer demand, something shaped not merely by need, but by contemporary ideologies. The groom's ring only became "tradition" in the United States when weddings, marriage, and "masculine domesticity" became synonymous with prosperity, capitalism, and national stability. (4)

link here

mears · 07/04/2005 09:48

I don't think the wearing of rings means that there is more commitment to each other. On saying tha my DH wears a ring because he wants to - he hates jewellery too but doesn't view his wedding ring as that.

I have never had my wedding ring off my finger since 1985.

JoolsToo · 07/04/2005 09:52

yes

flamesparrow · 07/04/2005 09:52

Lol -s hort n sweet

KeepingMum · 07/04/2005 09:55

Dh wasn't sure if he wanted to wear a ring or not when we got married so I bought him a white gold one from H Samuel, (mine is platinum and from Hatton Garden!) I wasn't going to waste money if he wasn't going to wear it. He since decided that he does like it but won't let me buy him a new one as that one is engraved with my name and is the one I put on him when we got married even though it is now a bit dented and not as white as it was! I don't wear an engagement ring as I have an irrational feeling that I didn't want to be 'betrothed' but also because dh wouldn't buy me one as I had one from someone else!

psychomum5 · 07/04/2005 09:58

My husband has a ring, but as a builder it got so scratched he now never wears it. Doesn't bother me in all honesty, I never actually notice rings on people anyway. In actual fact, I couln't tell you which of my friends husbands wears them!!!