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Does your DH wear a wedding ring?

156 replies

SkiBunnyFlummy · 06/04/2005 09:42

If you have a DH of course.

Do you mind if he does or not.

We are getting married this summer and my DF (? hee hee ) doesn't fancy wearing one as he already wears a signet ring (currently lost actually) and his dad doesn't wear one.

I'm not sure if I care or not. In some respects I think it might make him think twice before he stepped outside our marriage vows. Or it might put single chicks off - but then some singlies target married men don't they.

I'm not paranoid but he is a good looking bloke. well primarily he is a bloke so there is bound to be some temptation during a marriage.

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Anchovy · 06/04/2005 11:58

Mine does - when we got married I was going through one of my stroppy phases (no change there, then) and insisted everything had to be equal - result was neither of us changed our names and we both wear wedding rings.

Actually, at DH's suggestion, he arranged for his grandparent's wedding rings to be melted down and made into our wedding rings which is about the single most touching gesture he has ever made. I never met them but they were happily married for many years. I would love to think of my grandchild having mine.

He was pretty relaxed about wearing one - said he could always take it off when he goes on business trips!

HandbagAddiction · 06/04/2005 12:02

Mine doesn't. Not a jewelry fan and only wears a watch. When asked, he really didn't want one and I didn't see any point in forcing him to do it. IMO, there are better arguments to fight!!

eidsvold · 06/04/2005 12:29

yup - he even has two as the original one he had is too big - so we replaced it.

MrsMedders · 06/04/2005 12:45

My DH shocked me by suddenly wanting a ring at last moment and he ended up with a platinum v expensive one whilst I stuck with cheaper white gold (to go with engagement ring).
My Dad hates jewellery and hasn't had a wedding ring with either of his marriages.....

QueenEagle · 06/04/2005 12:52

me and dh have matching ones. He loves his ring.

lou33 · 06/04/2005 12:52

dh has one. My view is if i am expected to wear one then so can he, unless he is trying to keep the fact he is married a secret, then i don't want to be with him

SaintGeorge · 06/04/2005 12:53

Wears a wedding ring and wore an engagement ring too - a signet ring which he switched to his right hand on the morning of our wedding.

slug · 06/04/2005 12:57

Dh surprised me by agreeing to wear one as he's not a jewellery fan. I think part of it was to do with all his married friends wearing them. He has a stunning rose and white gold one which suits his rather delicate fingers beautifully.

binkybetsy · 06/04/2005 13:33

My Dh designed both our rings, and we both wear them. Only taken off to go in the bath and swimming.

Fimbo · 06/04/2005 13:34

My dh couldn't wait to wear his!! Which surprised me as he is not a jewellery person at all. Occasionally he has to take it off when his eczema flares up.

Gobbledigook · 06/04/2005 13:35

Yes he does and I'd be a bit worried if he said he didn't want to.

jessicasmummy · 06/04/2005 13:36

my dh wears one - we got married 20th dec 2003, but boxing day he had it cut off at hospital after an accident. I refused to replace it until we found out he was going to Iraq in July, we got one pronto! He has worn it ever since.

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SkiBunnyFlummy · 06/04/2005 13:39

Why do people take their rings off to go in the bath?

Our jeweller told me to take my rather ornate wedding ring off when I was at home to protect it. But I am scared of losing it!!

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SkiBunnyFlummy · 06/04/2005 13:40

engagement ring i mean

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binkybetsy · 06/04/2005 13:46

It feels gross to have your finger wet under the ring. Also I would worry that it would get lost at the pool. They're very expensive rings and have a piece of each others ring in the other so if they got lost the sentiment by which they were constructed would also be lost. Does that make sense?

Bozza · 06/04/2005 14:27

Never take either of mine off - apart from when fingers were too swollen. My Mum takes her rings with stones in off when doing housework, washing up etc but always leaves her wedding ring on.

ogri · 06/04/2005 14:37

my dh wears his ring all th etime apart from when he is working on cars and getting covered in oil.
i never take mine off

NomDePlume · 06/04/2005 14:46

Both DH and I wear one.

FWIW, my DH also doesn't like jewellery but to him (and me) a wedding band isn't jewellery

sacha3taylor · 06/04/2005 14:50

My DH wears one at weekends and when he goes out. He is a builder so is worried about getting it squashed on his finger if he bashed it with a hammer. I do understand this and i don't think I would really mind if he diddn't wear one atall. We were together 5 years before we were married and I trust him as much now as I did then.

littlerach · 06/04/2005 14:50

We both have white gold wedding rings, I think I'd be a bit cross if he didn't wear it.

cod · 06/04/2005 14:51

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PrettyCandles · 06/04/2005 14:54

It's not about temptation, IMO, but about both people publicly demonstrating their commitment to each other. I told my dh that I would only wear a ring if he would, and that they would both be wedding bands. He agreed and has worn it ever since.

cod · 06/04/2005 14:55

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