Is it reasonable to ask someone to clarify their feelings towards you?

[Watoose]

I'm asking as somehow I feel I should just take a hint, but then again he's being very confusing.

So I've written a longish letter explaining that although I am probably being thick, I need him to let me know that there's no chance with him so that I can move on. I have apologised in the letter but still feel mildly guilty about it for some reason.

Is this reasonable or should I just give up anyway and not expect him to spell it out for me? He's given me a few reasons to think there might be a chance so feel like I am hanging by a thread and unable to move on - I want to move on if he's just being polite iyswim.

Let go of him.It sounds as if you are giving him way too much power I agree with the others move on you deserve better

Shit or get off the pot is a phrase I wish I had used in my letter

oh she does, i agree, am just saying why i think you have to ask for this for your sake, even though you know its not going anywhere

then you will feel you can move on

Yes giving him too much power maybe - or taking some back, perhaps. Not sure but I feel Ok so that's a good sign.

Thankyou all of you for caring enough about my rubbish love life to help me think it through - much appreciated.