Sorry this might be long! I have had this particular friend in my life since I was 18, so 17 years now. We really go back a long way. I have been feeling for years now that I'm actually not sure I like her anymore, she's changed beyond all recognition. She used to be a really caring girl, very generous, very fair minded. Things started to go wrong when she had finished her degree and moved to London. She met a guy who I can only describe as a complete arse. She started to change and become more like him, really strident views about things, started turning into a bit of a snob, and our relationship started to change. When I got married I asked her to be my bridesmaid. She doesn't believe in marriage, tells all and sundry how demeaning it is to women etc so quite a strange choice of bridesmaid I agree! She was a terrible bridesmaid, barely did anything but show up. I organised my own hen do, she left the wedding early, I was left feeling she didn't even want to be there. I agree, its my own fault for asking her. We don't live in the same part of the country but I now live back in my home town after living away for many years. She comes back quite regularly so we see each other one weekend a month. I email her quite regularly. The problem is, I think its time to call time on this friendship. Being in contact with her is really depressing me as its like being constantly disappointed. She looks down at me because I'm a SAHM saying she couldn't possibly do that as she would find it so unstimulating, she never replies to my emails and the one's I get are one liners, no effort at all. She never rings, she never remembers mine or my kids birthdays despite me always sending her kids cards and presents. When I invite her and the vile partner round they never bring wine and just drink all ours but to top it all off she never even acknowledges the presents I buy her kids. She doesn't send thank you cards, doesn't even send an email saying thanks they liked it. Its come to a head as my husband has just gone into hospital and I sent her an email telling her. Despite it being quite serious I just got a one liner back. Just before he became ill I sent her child a birthday present with a card and some money in and its been a week now and she hasn't even acknowledged it despite the fact she forgot my childs birthday in january and has actually never remembered it. On top of her attitude about my husband I think well sod you then. I am sick of being disappointed in her. I am sick of making all the effort. I am sick of her justifying the fact she is a crap friend on the fact she works full time. We are all busy and she isn't running bloody Nasa, she works for her local council. She's not too busy, she's just rude and bad mannered. So, is it time to call time on this friendship !