Legally can I change the locks?

[Quadrophenia]

Need to do something, xp name on mortagge can i change them?

please please get soem RL support. you sounds on the edge and no wonder

i knwow one woman who was treated really badly by her ex, she ended up having depression, other mental health problems & misusing alcohol / drugs &r other self destructive bahaviours.

She struggled on for ages,, trying to be reasonable and understanding. Then her ex went for custody of the children on the basis that she was an unfit mother

none of the dv was documented and he persuaded the courts that she just made it up

please get help, this cant go on. you must stay strong for your children. stop thinking of him , you dont have the emotional energy to feel sad for him. save your energy for keeping you and teh kids safe

thankyou for all your comments yesterday, have tried to get in at my gp this morning, but wasn't able to without telling the receptionist the ins and outs. Was very difficult because I was trying to get the children sorted for school, the receptionist said she needed a list of symptoms, i told her it was more complicated than that but i couldn't explain further because the children were around. she then replied that i would have to see a nurse then, and i replied that no i wanted to see a doctor, she then said she would need to know what the problem was. grrr so I hung up, why can't getting a gp appt be easy.

oh Quad - that's crap - ring them back and tell them you need to see a doctor today, if they ask why just tell them it's personal but urgent.

None of their bloody business

I know i need to, will try again in a bit

Yes, I would ring back and tell them you can't explain because its confidential but that it's essential you see a doctor today. Or you could say that you are unable to explain why at this moment and you're sure she understands. Please ring back!

and if that doesn't work just turn up at the Drs at refuse to leave until you've seen one

I look so scarey at the moment they would probably get me in so as not to unerve the other patients!!!

have made an appt for this afternoon, different receptionist! Now i just feel like what the hell am i going to say, where do i start, I know i need to do it but I don't know how to. I feel such a fuckin mess its untrue.

you are putting your self in danger.

you really need to report him to the police and get a restraining order, you need to see a solicitor and discuss PROPER|LY the issue of a violent man having access. there must be a law that accounts for this.

I think a good first step is going to the GP well done.

I also think that if you truly believe that a man who punches the mother of his children - is a good father , and that those two issues can be seperated, you are very, very mistaken

if he cared anything for the children at all, he wouldn't play power trip games and fuck yourhead up - not allowing you to function properly as their mother.

would he?

he doesn't care for their wellbeing very much at all really does he?

if you don't take the initiative of finding out where you stand legally with regards to allowing a violent man to be violent to you whilst the children are in the house, you may be setting your self up for a huge shit storm with social services.

so please, i beg you, see a solicitor. report him to the police. get a restraining order.

am thinking about the whole solicitor thing, really I am, I know what you post makes sense.
Gp was feck all help, prescribed citalopram and asked if we'd considered counselling and if there was anychance we would get back together. it was all very efficicent rather than the chat i was hoping for, I didn't even get certified off work

Oh, no, that's mighty crap.
Back together after he punched you, yes, right
ring WA
Ask if they can put you in touch with someone local.
You need a friend and an advocate, it will take the weight off your shoulders.

The counsellors I saw who worked for the refuge were totally brilliant, on my side, unquestioningly. I so needed that - just to be believed iyswim.

Or Quad, you do know if you ring the police station (local # not 999) they'll have all this information, all the local support and numbers and someone will take you under their wing with a bit of luck.

Go easy on yourself, you did really well to go to GP. Did he see your injury - I mean, do you have a bruise from the other day? At least now it will be documented that you were assaulted.

Go to the police Quad, thats the only sure fire way he will not be allowed to enter your property again.

He might say now he's not going to try and get access to your home but what if he changes his mind?

Go to the police so it's on record, and in the event you want to a get a non molestation order out against him you have this on record.

You need to take care of yourself and protect yourself for your childrens sakes, what kind of wonderful dad hurts the mother of his children?

Cannot beleive your GP, words fail me!

sorri about useless gp...

if you still ahve bruise go abck tomorrow make sure it recorded as domestic violence.

echo what was said -call local polie ask for domestic violence unit. you need this incident recorded and a crime ref number.

would you get legal aid?

gettign an injunction otherwise can cost £2600...

but you might be able to get non molestation order via police - you need to see a solicitor and you need to report to police he is harassing you adn he assaulted you.

call womens aid or local project for advice