I've been with my fiance a whirlwind 8 months. He's warm and lovely and treats me really well. We live 200 miles apart and only see eachother fortnightly but hope to be together in a year or two (both currently have dependent kids). But something from his past is bothering me and made me question taking things further.
About 10 years ago around the time of a painful divorce, he decided to do some work on himself and got heavily involved in a cultish form of martial arts and also mysticism/spiritualism. This involved going to events which involved orgies (apparently uninhibited sex with strangers is a path to spiritual enlightenment!) and he actively took part. He also spent time on a course which involved pairing up with "friends" which again meant lots of shagging in the name of personal development. Visits to the far east also, climbing up volcanos, not eating for days and seeing things. Although he doesn't actively partake now, he talks about it incessantly and doesn't question it and if I dare venture even mild criticism he attacks me and I believe my views make him think less of me as a partner.
He also maintains he has physic powers gained from his martial arts training and still sees apparitions. The latest was at Christmas when he claims that a dead "Grandmaster" visited him in the shower and told him what a good woman I was and that he should nurture me! So I feel I'm with this lovely down-to-earth man who has this strange preoccupation to which he allows no criticism. It scares me a bit - he's like two people and it's making me wary.
Another issue is that we come from different backgrounds - I'm highly educated and although intelligent he's from a working class background and didn't get the breaks I did. I'm no snob or I wouldn't be with him but I have to modify my vocabulary all the time and our families/friends are very different. It's not too much of an issue now but could be in the future. I'm beginning to wonder if I should really slow things down and even whether the relationship has any future. Would be so grateful for opinions.