does anyone get on with their mother

[monkeyfeet]

or is the relationship one that is constant battles where things are never resolved and you always end up compromising to keep the peace though she never does.

I have just had a massive argument with mine about very little really concerning her priorities and my dogs, she never seems to put my dd first. So anyway we argued she called me some awful things (she wasnt even drunk) burst into tears and I ended up apologising.

Is is going to be like this with my dd one day, please does anyone have a good relationship with their mother or daughter? give me hope

I have always had a great relationship with mine-we are very alike and so it is easy! She is now getting elderly and I dread having to do without her one day.

It makes me feel sad that I haven't had a great relationship with mine esp reading the posts from those who do.

As this has been going on since I was a child I do feel that the onus has been on her to make it better. I have tried but if the criticism etc started when I was a child - well who was the adult?

It is baffling to a child when they can sense hostility from their parent.

I hope my DCs know they are loved and valued.

My Mum has a great relationship with all four of her children. She is still very maternal and absolutely adores her grand-children.

I think the fact that she has never criticised any of us - even when we've made mistakes is a big factor.

Now she asks us (well me) for advice so I suppose the relationship has come full circle. I speak with her on the phone perhaps every three nights, sometimes more often.

I suppose I'm trying to say that (ime) as long as you're a good Mum the relationship will be a good one.

My relationship with my mum is fab, but it hasn't always been this way,
When I was going through puberty i used to be so horrible to her, of course I thought it was her fault at the time but now realise that it was just hormones.

Now i don't know what i would do without her, especially as she does two days a week childcare free of charge while I go out to work,

Monkeyfeet, my mum had a horrific relationship with her mother - my grandmother is a bitter narcissist who I honestly think has a personality disorder. She spent my mother's childhood verbally abusing her and telling her she was unwanted.

My mum put loads of energy into being understanding, affectionate and open with me and my siblings because she wanted the opposite for us and her.

It worked. My relationship with my mum is incredibly close - I speak to her almost every day, we go shopping together, she cares for DS one day a week and travels 70 miles to do so.

We had our ups and downs when I was a teenager and bringing home unsuitable boyfriends, of course, but it all shook down pretty quickly.