so 3 weeks ago he told me he didnt fancy me yet last night he kissed me....HELP!!!!

[cheekysealion]

because i dont understand what is happening...

he told me this 3 weeks ago i accepted it we have since spent some lovely evenings together (including last night) and he kissed me

I have been single for 3 years so please be gentle with me

for me it was Xmas Eve .. and again last night
oh dear
his friend is staying and I met him today for the first time he quite clearly thinks I'm flighty and suspicious Scarlet Woman type
Perhaps he's right

This is exactly how DH and I got together only it was me that wasn't keen, although I never said I didn't fancy him quite so bluntly - more that I didn't think it was a good idea as we worked together. But it was true, I didn't really fancy him.

However, there was something there and I was drawn to him somehow or another so we spent a lot of time together and over the course of about 3 months, I realised I did actually want to be with him.

It is not impossible that your friend's feelings have changed and that he is now ready for something more to happen.

Fingers crossed things work out for you both.

So you still texting then ninah?

thanks niecie- love your story... and i think it is a lovely way to get together..

so any texts to report girls??

I am up early bescause i am back to work today after christmas

children arent keen that we are up so early..

have a good day everyone

cheekysealion i hope that you have good first day back.
Yes a bit of tipsy texting for me last nite followed by mammoth msn sess so am a seriously smiling seriouslyblondemoment today lol!!

yes but soberly asbm
hope work goes OK csl, quite envy you the escape actually - if not the early start

oh well here's to vino o'clock then ninah!!
and er just sent mine a msn
a little something for when he gets in from work!!

i am home now and resisting the urge to text him

there is such a fine line between being to over the top and not looking like you care less.. and i dont know which way to go.. he seems a bit insecure so i dont think i should play to cool...

might wait til tomorrow and ring him... i am so hoping he invites me out for new year, think that will be the teller if he doesnt

when did you last hear from him?
and yes NYE would be lovely but its not the be all and end all.
try to stay calm and keep busy somehow

my friend just said exactly the same thing..

I said if he doesnt want to be with me new year then that to me is telling me he is def not intrested but she disagreed which i was surprised at actually because she is normally a bit negative and thought she would agree with me ....

I really think i am better off single a the whole thing is eating me up now...

I have been busy i have just gutted my bedroom and changed it all around for the new year

And i am about to put up some nice fairy lights that i ahve been meaning to put up for the last year..

OOh this is exciting - I think it sounds like he does really fancy you, though i dunno why he said he didn't

I agree you should try to play it a bit cool, but he might need a bit of encouragement?

cheeksealion honestly NYE isn't all it's cracked up to be.
He may genuinally have already made plans with family or close friends.or maybe doesn't think its a big deal after all you cant even visit your local nowadays without having to pay ridiculous entry fee!!
and yes resist the urge to text or call thou i know its so hard..
..at worst if you havent heard, a friendly NYE text will be fine not the act of a needy woman but just a friendly message.
Let's face it he could need time on his own to sort his own head out?

Ok i will stop freting about NYE (but it would be nice!!)

He texted me last night to see how i was ..

noting more to report... i texted him a short message back...

oh ok NYE would be so nice..
but he is still maintaining contact.
so maybe he is taking things slowly.
If he were bombarding you with texts then I might feel a bit concerned as he would be trying to maybe rush you into things

thanks sbm...

I wish i knew what he was thinking, but time will tell me i guess

so don't do a me thing here!!
stay calm keep busy!!
don't read too much into what's gone on or your head will be in bits which isn't what you need right now
and i know exactly how you feel as i've been there and its so horrid...aagh bloody men why can't they say it how it is like us women!!
and by the way seriouslyblonde why can't you practice what you preach lol!!