Should I bin this guy as probably a bit pervy?

[WhosThatThen]

I joined a dating site (and have namechanged) and started emailing this guy who seemed normal, we exchanged mobile numbers and have been texting fairly normal stuff like 'how are you' and 'what have you planned for the weekend'.

So. Last night he text and called me miss flirty, out of the blue. He asked what I was doing and I said I was in need of an early night and asked about his plans. Well he came back with....How come early night sounds fun with two lol...

Am I being a bit of a prude or is this just a bit too forward? We havent even met yet.

How would you reply to that if at all?

Right so the rules are

1. don't take it up the arse

2. run if he whips out the gimp mask

3. don't shag him unless I'm happy doing it in public.

Gottit!

I'm just kidding, that sounds like sound advice sticksantaup. I shall take note.

oh that must be where i have been going wrong all this time

Salsmum I like a happy ending, congratulations on finding your DP.

Please look like George...
Please look like George...
Please look like George.

I'm going to ask for a photo next time I speak to him.

Well I'm 5ft 3 and I quite like being able to wear 4 inch heels and still be shorter than men, my mum always had a complex about being short so I guess I went the other way.

i have a 13 yr age gap with dp and I (he being the eldest) we have a 10yr old and a 15 month old....age really is just a number.

Glad your eventual phone conversation went well, he really does sound OK. You must get a photo before you meet him though, otherwise you run the risk of being hugely let down! I met my husband-to-be online and we emailed for 2 months before meeting up. He didn't have a picture on his profile either but I made sure I got one before we met up, just in case!

It did turn out to be love at first sight and it was great that I'd got to know him online first. But I reckon I was very lucky and I'd met LOADS of blokes beforehand. Hope you do meet up and he's nice but my advice is not to expect too much from online dating, see as many men as you can without letting it take over your life, and keep the faith!

Yup, always a good idea to get a pic first. And if the colour tones are a bit out and the clothing a bit unfashionable, bear in mind that the picture might be about 10 years old...
It's also worth keeping your options open ie don't assume - or ask for - an exclusive stop-looking relationship before you've even had the first date (like one buckethead on here did and wondered why the guy fled, screaming...) It's just a bit of fun, treat it as that and you will have plenty of fun.

hiya..just read this thread and thought id add from my experiences (met my now DH on a "dating" site, and have met loads of people from them).
Anyway... firstly have you asked him why he deleted his profile from the site? (my suspicious mind thinks that it may not have been because of your text) and secondly, before you meet, make sure you have a land line number form him, and have called him on it at an unplanned time at least once. Mobile phones make it too easy for married men to have a second life!
I do hope your man is as nice as he sounds tho, and you have a great time when you do meet up... good luck.

I got a pic!!! And guess what? It's not George.
BUT he looks younger than I expected and quite handsome. For a split second I thought I was looking at Ian Beale but more sexy and butch and less geeky and smarmy. So really not Ian Beale at all. Good.
The pic is only 6 months old so we're ok on that score.

We spoke again tonight, his voice definitely turns me on and I am feeling ever so slightly randy as I type.

Starzzz good point re the land line number - I will get one.
He has already invited me round his to (ahem) 'cook' with him so if he is married I don't think she minds sharing her kitchen.

Sticksanta I also have other options including a company director sugar daddy only 14 years my senior. Now he MIGHT be married.

Ooooh I am buzzing - need cold shower.

ooh that all sounds good so far then