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Should I bin this guy as probably a bit pervy?

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WhosThatThen · 06/12/2008 11:31

I joined a dating site (and have namechanged) and started emailing this guy who seemed normal, we exchanged mobile numbers and have been texting fairly normal stuff like 'how are you' and 'what have you planned for the weekend'.

So. Last night he text and called me miss flirty, out of the blue. He asked what I was doing and I said I was in need of an early night and asked about his plans. Well he came back with....How come early night sounds fun with two lol...

Am I being a bit of a prude or is this just a bit too forward? We havent even met yet.

How would you reply to that if at all?

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lou33 · 06/12/2008 16:34

sounds fairly harmless to me, just a blokey way of trying to up the flirting to see if you like him

i wouldnt say it was forward

i would have replied making light of it or ignoring it completely, reiterating how knackered you were

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WhosThatThen · 06/12/2008 16:45

I have just received an email from another guy...
"wher do you live sorry if i sound ignorant
my name is "
It's not a lot to go on is it?

I just noticed as well that he is just 5'4 bless his cotton socks.

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lou33 · 06/12/2008 16:48

some of the messages i have had would make a funny book

5ft 4? that would make me 3 inches taller than him in my stocking feet, or 8 inches taller in my shoes, it would be like dating a child lol

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WhosThatThen · 06/12/2008 17:11

Well he is actually an inch taller than me but I like tall guys - 5'10 or over really.
I also like ones that can construct a bit of an intro. One that says something good about them.

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lou33 · 06/12/2008 17:22

i just got sent this message randomly, and it wasnt on a dating site

"wats up babes? i want to be friends. howz u? simply put i wanna rock ur world!!!lol "

odds on me ignoring it?

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WhosThatThen · 06/12/2008 17:33

Nice! Fairly good odds?

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lou33 · 06/12/2008 17:37

you are one smart cookie

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WhosThatThen · 07/12/2008 16:06

Interesting development that I have to share!
After ignoring me and deleting his profile I have just had a text from him - perfectly normal, asking after my weekend and putting 'xxx' at the end.

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lou33 · 07/12/2008 18:36

what did you do?

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WhosThatThen · 07/12/2008 20:02

Well I just replied perfectly normally to him. He has suggested a chat and perhaps a meet up, I asked him to let me know when he is available for a chat on the phone and he has just text back and said 'anytime you are'.
But I'm not, I'm scared! Argh! What a big girl's blouse.

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southeastastra · 07/12/2008 20:06

what's wrong with a bit pervy?

random · 07/12/2008 20:09

I quite like a bit pervy

lou33 · 07/12/2008 20:17

me too but only when i say so

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WhosThatThen · 07/12/2008 20:19

Ladies!

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WhosThatThen · 07/12/2008 20:51

I've told Mr BitPervy a time I'm going to call so there's no getting out of it now.
I feel like a teenager! Pity I don't look like one. I need to loose a stone and about 10 years.

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LoveBeingAMummyKissingSanta · 08/12/2008 08:55

Have you called him yet? HOw did it go?

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WhosThatThen · 08/12/2008 21:14

Ok so I called him tonight, I WAS SOOOOO NERVOUS! But it was ok. We chatted a bit about things, work etc.
He sent me a text this morning saying basically 'morning' and that he was looking forward to speaking to me. I told him I thought it was a really nice text to receive and that led nicely on to the 'bitpervy' text and we cleared the air on that too.

He doesn't sound at all pervy, just like a really nice guy( with a very deep voice - which I like). He stammered a few times so I could tell he was a bit nervous too. But I got off the phone relalising that I still don't know what he looks like. Damn. I hope I fancy him.

Thanks for all the advice everyone. I really needed help!

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Jackstini · 09/12/2008 13:23

Glad you cleared the air WTT - good luck with a meeting!!

lou33 · 09/12/2008 23:56

you havent seen a photo?

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WhosThatThen · 10/12/2008 00:21

Thanks Jackstini!

No, Lou he didn't have a piccy on his profile.
I am working on the theory that by the end of this textathon we will know each other so well it will just be lust love at first sight.
Or I'm enjoying the fantasy that he's actually George Clooney and has been waiting desperately for the day that I join a dating site and finally give him a chance to woo me.

I suppose I should brace myself for disappointment.

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lou33 · 10/12/2008 00:37

lol

i think you should ask for a photo

has he seen one of you?

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WhosThatThen · 10/12/2008 00:44

I think you're right.

I meant to but forgot in the panic of trying to be witty and sexy and coherent at the same time. Who said wimmin can multitask?

He has seen one of me on my profile.

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sticksantaupyourchimney · 10/12/2008 00:45

Erm, 'a bit pervy' in my book would have been 'So do you take it up the arse then And shall I bring my gimp mask on the first date?' The text you quoted doesn;t sound remotely worrying - just like a friendly attempt to imply that he's looking to date, not just socialise platonically.
Just stick to the normal rules (not that woman-hating bullshit about deferring to men) - meet in a public place, tell someone where you are going and when you will be back, etc, and if you're not comfortable in public with all your clothes on, don't give the other person the opportunity to take you somewhere private.

salsmum · 10/12/2008 00:54

IWTT,
I met my current partner on The Dating Channel
[sorry cheesy I know] but that was 3 years ago I was 43 been on my own for 12 years with 2 grown up kids [my daughter was 16 then and is disabled] I lost count of the amount of perv txts/willy pictures I got on my phone you can normally weed out the nutters!. Take the bull by the horns, chat lots on phone until you feel comfortable enuf to meet and then take lots of deep breaths on 1st date good luck girl! if I can do it anyone can!!!

lou33 · 10/12/2008 00:55

ooh santa you saucepot you!

i would be worried the first time i met , if there had been no pic, would show a feeling of being horrified or overly gleeful at his appearance

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