How often do your children see their grandparents?

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Just wondering what is "normal".

Hmm, normal, yes I know there is no such thing!

My mum - every weekday (she looks after DS after school) and we go to them for Sunday lunch about twice a month

My dad - about once a week and again when we go over for Sunday lunch about twice a month

FIL - never, he feel out with DH about three years ago and has never spoken to any of us since! He is now traveling round Europe in his campervan with his girlfriend

My parents live in France, my DD's see them a couple of times a year, not enough really. Even though France is not far it is still expensive coming and going especially when you are restricted to school hols. We have no guest room so it's difficult for us to have them to stay with us for an extended period, and they can't really afford hotels etc so it has to be a once a year trip for them (they bring their caravan over and camp in a field down the road!)

My IL's live 200 miles away. We do see them more often, maybe every couple of months. They do come and stay but it involves lots of juggling of beds etc so it is not easy.

I do miss having family support nearby. Especially when I am ill or there is some problem, it would be lovely to have more help. It would also be nice to be able to pop in for an hour or two -when I was little my Dad would always take me to see my Nan on a Sunday morning.

My parents live in the US, so my ds only sees them about 3-4 times a year, which is quite a lot in view of the distance. I try and take him over when I go on long business trips and he stays with them for a week and loves it. He also talks to them on the phone about once a week and we try and skpe a video call every so often.

I had a similar relationship with my grandparents and we grew up to be very close.

We see FIL and SMIL about every 3-4 weeks, although they only live about 1 hour away. Life takes over and weekends are busy and then suddenly I realise that they have not seen ds in ages and we rush down and visit for a few hours. I do want him to have the best relationship possible with all of them, as I loved my gps.

We do not see MIL - I have only met her once and is not part of our life. It is dh's choice.

My mum lives with us (dad died years ago).

MIL and sFIL see dd about twice a year; she goes to stay with them in the summer hols and in Xmas hols. Last summer was not a success so am not sure whether she will go and stay this Xmas, we may just drive there (150miles) and drop her off for the afternoon.

Incidentally, dh can't stay in the same room as either of them for more than a few minutes without seething. I find MIL impossible, rude and sly, undermines me at every opportunity etc so used to leave her to dh, and hang out with sFIL. Unfortunately sFIL has now been as rude to me as anyone ever has in the whole of my adult life and has allowed a friend of his to manhandle and bully dd (that was why summer was not a success), so I avoid them both. We are trying to work out how we can keep a face to face relationship going between dd and MIL without leaving dd to the tender mercies of sFIL and his horrid friends, whilst still not having to spend too much time with MIL ourselves, as matricide will occur if she comes to stay with us. (sFIL wouldn't let her come on her own anyway.)

my parents probably at least 3 or 4 times a week, sometimes almost every day, They live about 500m away.. MIL once a week, maybe twice if dh takes him to see her during the week, she lives 20mins drive away and FIL about 3 times a year.

my parents 4/5 times a year due to distance
my pil, at least once a week if not twice.

Once or twice a week for my parents. It hasn't always been like this as we used to live 150 miles away.

About 4 or 5 times a year for longer stays (3 nights max) with PIL. We see them less often but for longer. We phone and email often though.

Definitely see them more now we have children.

My parents 5 days out of 7, live 2 mins away.

DHs once every month or two.

mil & fil probably every couple of weeks. they live about 20 mins drive from us. but often help out with one off childcare things.

my parents live 200 miles away, but we see them at least every month, probably more often. mostly they come down to us, we go there a couple of times a year. and the children go & stay in the holidays which everyone thinks is great!

This is making me quite for my dds. My folks live in the north of scotland, I'm in the south of England so distance is against us. We haven't seen them since October 2007, when we went up to visit them for a week. We've had promises that they will come down, but it's never happened

My in-laws live closeby but it involves a ferry journey so we see them more often, but it's 90% of the time us going to visit them.

MIL about once a month lives 20 mins away.
FIL twice a yr 60 miles away.

My mother once or twice a month lives 10 mins away.

No real regular contact, with my children.

My MIL once said to me she thinks grandparents who dote on their grandchildren, didn't bother or had to work when they had their own children.

My mum's just round the corner so she usually sees him at least once at the weekend and often during the week too.
My dad's local too but we don't get on so well so DS sees him every couple of weeks (am making the effort so they can have a relationship).
DP's parents are in the same town but a car journey away and they aren't in the best of health so perhaps once a fortnight too.

My dad - once a week
My mum - sometimes once a week if not every other week.

DHs Dad and step Mum - dh see's them once a month, i see them 2-3 times a year.

My Dad (100 miles away) 4 times a year.

My Mum who is round the corner about once a month.

FIL in Spain, never.

My parents- sometimes once a month, sometimes a few times a month, occasionally they'll babysit.

The ILs- once a year, usually when they visit us for a few hours around Christmas time. They don't like me and virtually ignore our 3DDs (the only grandchildren they've got) as well.

My parents - several times a week as they live round the corner and I rely on them for lots of childcare stuff.

Xh's parents - ds has never met them as they live in the US, but he is going out there next year to meet the whole clan for the first time!

My mum once a month.

My dad, probably four or five times a year.

DH's parents, probably four or five times a year. We skype every Sunday.

I think just do what you're comfortable with. I know some people run themselves ragged for other relatives.

Well, my dad lives next door, so the kids see him every day, and they have a great relationship with him.

MIL lives other side of the country so every 3-6 mths, really (could be more often, as she is welcome to come to us any time, but doesn't)

They only have 1 granny and 1 grandad (other parents are dead), so I do feel it's important for them to have a bond with the ones they have left!

MY Mum lives about 10 mins away and sees them at least once a week ,my dad works away so sees them once every two months .

MIL and FIl live 20 mins away and do not see them at all .

OH and dp's grandad lives 8 houses away and blanks them when he drives past and admits he does not know their names ,bitter me never .

My parents: once or twice a week; they live 35 mins drive away. In-laws: about 3 times a year; they live 300 miles away. We would make more of effort to travel up to see them if we felt they enjoyed our company and wanted to see more of our DS - but they don't really seem that interested

They see my mum about 4 times a year

They see my pils every 2-3 YEARS.