DH's grandparents refuse to use DS's name!

[MrsMagooo]

This may seem really trvial but it's driving me nuts!

Our DS is 3 months old & we named him Elijah, we both adore it & wanted a strong bible name for him

Pretty much everyone thinks it's fab - that is aside from DH's grandparents.

DH grandad says he just can't get used to it & doesn't know how to say it - he thinks we should have called him something "normal" like Raymond

DH Nan doesn't ever use his name - just refers to him as Baby or Babe

It's really getting on my nreves - especially as DH Nan keeps asking if she can call him something else!!

I adore my sons name, it's not that different & IMO isn't wacky or odd - but even if it was surely they should just accept that, that is his name!

What are they going to do when he's in his teens FFS?

Sorry - just needed to rant!!

Tell em to shorten it to Eli if it's easier for their poor aul addled brains to cope with

I love, love, love it, BTW!

Be kind, let them call him their own pet name that they are comfortable with and that will ultimately be something special between him and them. It won't change what his real name is!

What a wonderful name (kicks self for not thinking of that one for the sons)...

I tried that Doodle went down like a lead balloon lol!!

Sympathies here. My mother always took a while to get used to my kids' names, and they're not that unusual (imo) either. Eventually I'd just firmly correct her if she was making a meal out of pronouncing the name or referring to them as baby. She soon got the message. Just be firm and confident - it's not like you're going to bow to pressure and change Elijah's name on their account is it?

How old are they? Without wishing to sound harsh, is it really going to be an issue when he's in his teens?

I'd just let it slide tbh. Do you see them often?

Aaww thank you Quiet

Hully only trouble is they want to call him another name entirely!

Cool name btw. We gave ds an old testament name too and my dad said, 'We rather liked Jack.' Wtf??

Thanks Franke - I make a point of saying 'Yes Nan ELIJAH would love a cuddle' lol!

Suburban they're in their 70's so not spring chickens but certainly won't be checking out any time soon We see them at least once a week I'd say

I think its a lovely name. I'm guessing that your DH's grandparents are in their 70's to 80's ( if I'm way off the mark here!
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My Granny (83) is really fit and mentally able but she struggles with DD2s name just because its not spelt in the most straight forward way. I'm aware of it. She's never really said anything but you can see that she doesn't mention her name when you call. She says "And hows the baby?" It doesn't bother me at all. I just make sure that I say the name clearly at the beginning of the conversation. Sometimes she gets it, sometimes she doesn't.

It really doesn't annoy me - I'm just thrilled that my DDs have great grandparents who are interested in them at all!

LOL Suburban - glad it's not just me who got that kind of reposnse

oh, i LOVE that name

I remember when we told my Dad DS's name he went & "can you not call him Eric"

needless to say, my Dad has got used to the name and so will they

At some point when he is older he will either be fine with whatever pet name they have given him (maybe not Raymond lol) or he will use great volume to say "I AM CALLED ELIJAH".

As he uses his own name you will probably find that they do too.

"I'm just thrilled that my DDs have great grandparents who are interested in them at all! "

Very good point. Am always amazed at how many grandparents are not at all interested or involved with their DGC. Seen a lot of threads on MN about it and it saddens me so much

Sorry x-posted. I'd just keep correcting them. My FIL and MIL took to calling DD2 a shortened version of her name that I didn't really like at all. After seeking advise on here I decided just to run with it and silently grit my teeth.

DH, DD1 and I always call her by her full name. Anyway she's 8 months now and for the first time last weekend they visited and for some reason both started using her full name.

Fingers crossed your relatives are the same

LOL Ruby seems to me be a man thing wanting names like Raymond & Eric lol!

Twenty DH grandad currently refers to DS as 'the boy' hoping he'll think of something else!!

That is very good point willthisdo I guess I should just accept it - just makes me a little upset too as we spent AGES choosing what we considered to be the perfect name for DS & I love it so much, I just wish they did too.

MrsMagooo - the only thing I find weird is that they want to call him something completely different! I'd let them call him a pet name like Poppet or something which is obviously not a real name and just a token of affection, but if they were trying to call him Dave then I would put my foot down! What do they want to call him out of nosiness interest?

Basically anything other then his actual name

As I say at the mo he is currently referred to by them as Baby/Babe or The Boy

I personally don't like him being called Eli (even though I know when he goes to school etc etc it is bound to get shortened) but I would let them use Eli has a happy medium but it seems DH grandad even has an issue with that!

I have an Elijah too MrsMagoo - but mine is a great deal older than yours!

My grandparents (similar age to your dhs) called him Nigel and Eliza!

Was very patient and kept just using his name and correcting them etc and now they seem to do ok!

Also dont be too sure he will get it shortened to Eli - we thought the same and everyone is still using the full version.

Great name btw - you obviously have good taste!

Perhaps they don't actually like Elijah as a name at all but you as his parents do have the final say on what he's called. They will just have to live with your choice of name.

This is a matter for your H to address with his parents. Presumably he is also unhappy about them not using your son's given name. What, if anything, has he said to them about his son being called baby or the boy by them?.

Tully what fab taste in names you have - I'm quite pleasently suprised to hear your DS gets called by his full name - I'm really not keen on the shortened version myself but resigned myself to the fact it probably would get shortened.

Attila it's DH grandparents that are refusing to use DS name. DH is very chilled/laid back person & takes everything in his stride so it just washes over when they refer to DS in their terms.

Cant they call him Boyo? or Sonny?

I wouldnt make too much of a point.

You have however not told us WHAT name they want to call him... spill

Ps Tully we've had Eliza too - although it was FIL who called him that & was said in a jokey/endearing way.......I hope lol!

Quint they haven't specified a name (aside from Raymond) they just keep saying how they can't get used to it/pronounce it/it's to different & can they call him a different name?!

i love the name.im sure they cant call him baby/the boy forever so id ignore.do you see lots of them?when hes old enough to chat im sure he'll correct them!