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Sperm donation

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SpermDoner · 13/11/2008 10:52

Men who give theire sperm out to a sperm bank should remain aynomous. A report in the news this week said donations had fallen by 40%.

Can you see why?

I am a sperm donor, and I do not want anyone turning up at my door 18 years later.

OP posts:
lulumama · 13/11/2008 13:10

how very rude ! to post a thread and then not want to answer questions.. bizarre.. what was the point of posting if you did not want to enter into debate.. or only answer questions that you felt were appropriate?

do we need a quick spray of this?

HappyWoman · 13/11/2008 13:12

I dont care what you earn. Just wondered why so many of your offspring would WANT to contact you other than out of mild wonderment or medical background.

Again sorry if i have touched a raw nerve wrt to money - how common of me.

HappyWoman · 13/11/2008 13:14

So you are happy now after reading this thread now but had no idea at the time of donation?? Weird.

TigerFeet · 13/11/2008 13:14

How much did they pay? [rhetorical]

I find it unlikely that it was enough to put anything aside for four children.

A friend of mine donated at uni in the mid-90's and iirc it was beer money - £25 or thereabouts

HappyWoman · 13/11/2008 13:16

sorry got to go now - being taken out to lunch
carry on as i will catch up later.

MarthaClapp · 13/11/2008 13:17

MarthaClapp:- unless he donated his sperm to the queen or a rich arab.

Hey I sense a troll here, a little man, dressed in green and wearing a bobble hat. This guy has issues, troll ppl. Pull the thread

Simplysally · 13/11/2008 13:35

Surely the Queen is too old to have children now?

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bythepowerofgreyskull · 13/11/2008 13:39

I don't know if this is a troll or not but
if I was desperate to have a baby and needed to use donated sperm then I would want there to be sperm available.. the fact that donations have dropped by 40% surely means that there may not be the quanity needed.
there have been families across the country explaining for years and years that Daddy was a wonderful man who made a donation so that we could make a baby without there being any further details available..

MarthaClapp · 13/11/2008 13:41

he appeared to have left. do u think we answered all his questions?

I think he was a troll

piratecat · 13/11/2008 16:08

no more SpermBoner?

awwwwwww

HappyWoman · 13/11/2008 16:09

i was hoping to come back from lunch and get back into it!

piratecat · 13/11/2008 16:17

well i do need a sperm, but he's gone now.

mumoverseas · 13/11/2008 16:57

he must have gone back to his paper cup!
oh well, just in case you come back, sparks is 100% correct. If you previously donated anonymously, any children arising from those donations will not be told of your existence. However, since the law changed with regards to sperm and egg donors being unable to remain anonymous, any future donations would not be anonymous.
I have donated eggs twice, both times prior to the change in the law. The first time was totally anonymously to a clinic in London. The second time was as a result of a lady placing an advert in my local post office window desperate for a donor as she had no eggs following treatment for cancer. Originally I was supposed to donate anonymously to the hospital treating her and she would then go to the top of the list and get the next available eggs. Sadly, very few women donate eggs as it is a very invasive process (as opposed to 5 minutes in a toilet with a playboy magazine and a paper cup) Therefore, in the end, I donated directly to her. Although we never met, we kept in touch by phone and letter and 9 months after my donation she had a beautiful little boy. She sent me photos of him for a few months but then we decided on no further contact. He would be 7 now and I often wonder if I'd recognise him in the street.
With regards to payment, it is against the law in the UK for donors to receive any form of payment except travel expenses and any other out of pocket expenses (ie time off work for hospital treatment etc). However, as a blue eyed blonde, had I donated in the USA I would have been paid in the region of $10,000+. I wouldn't have taken the money though as I believe that it is unethical to benefit from other peoples misfortune. It is very sad that hardly anyone donates now due to the changes in the law. I probably would have done it again though but sadly I'm too old now as apparently once over 34 your eggs shrivel up! (although I had a DD 2 years ago and am now 25 weeks pg!)

DapperDan · 14/11/2008 22:09

Donors don't get paid as such, but they can claim up to £10 per visit for loss of earnings and also travel expenses.

Personally, I think donors should NOT remain anonymous.

jlblakey · 26/12/2008 15:36

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spicemonster · 27/12/2008 19:55

jlblakey - if you go to a clinic, any donor will be 100% private. You can't find out who they are. Only the child can find out (and that is only if you choose to tell them how they were conceived).

What a bizarre thread.

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