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Sperm donation

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SpermDoner · 13/11/2008 10:52

Men who give theire sperm out to a sperm bank should remain aynomous. A report in the news this week said donations had fallen by 40%.

Can you see why?

I am a sperm donor, and I do not want anyone turning up at my door 18 years later.

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HappyWoman · 13/11/2008 12:50

Spermdonor

Sorry i have offended you - if at the time you were told you would be aynomous then i do think you have a right to remain.
I thought you were talking about 'new recruits' -so sorry if you think i was having a go at you.
Is it really a threat that you will have children now knocking on your door?? Is it not something you ever thought about at the time? - silly question you were only a young student - yes i am medical too btw!!

I completly understand i too have 4 children.
But still do not think that had i ever dontated eggs i would feel so compeled to change my identity to 'hide' from them - sorry i still dont get it.
I truely hope it is not because you are ashamed of what you have done.

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Sparks · 13/11/2008 12:50

SpermDoner (assuming you are not a troll) you will remain unknown. The change in the law is not retrospective. If you gave anonymous donations, you remain anonymous.

Also, if you donated at licensed clinic in the UK, it's improbable that 30 people were conceived using your donations. There is a legal limit of 10 live 'birth events' for each donor(twin and multiple births each count as one 'birth event').

Bubbaluv · 13/11/2008 12:50

It's an option open to all mothers not just sperm donation recipients. We can all go out and have annonymous sex, conceive a child and thereby compromise that child's right to information. Maybe it's not ideal, but it is a reality that many children face (many without even knowing it - the stats are amazing!) and it's not so terrible at the end of the day.

Kewcumber · 13/11/2008 12:51

Donors:
Over the last few years, attitudes towards donation and peoples right to know about their parentage and genetic origins have changed.

Like adopted people, people born from donations have the right to ask the regulatory body (The Human Fertilisation & Embryology Authority) (HFEA):

The person/people who received your donation will be the childs legal and social parent(s) you will not be named on the birth certificate.

You have no legal, financial or social obligations to any child created from your donation either now or in 18 years time.

Donors may claim expenses incurred in connection with the donation process, for example the cost of childcare, travel costs and other out-of-pocket expenses.

Additionally, you can also claim compensation for loss of earnings up to a daily maximum of £55.19, with an overall maximum of £250 per course of sperm donation.

Kewcumber · 13/11/2008 12:53

I don;t beleive that you have changed your name by deed poll and I don;t beleive that you weren;t aware that the cap on live births from one donor is 10 by the way.

HappyWoman · 13/11/2008 12:56

But i dont think you will have to 'take on' another 30 teenagers really.
They are young and curious surely but why would they 'come after' you.

It must be awful to not know where you come from at all, can you not see that too.

Simplysally · 13/11/2008 12:58

I think that this is a troll or wind-up merchant posting here but I may be wrong.

The OP doesn't seem to know much about the law on sperm donations in either the UK or the US - they are only agreeing when someone else comments on aspects of the law.

Sparks · 13/11/2008 12:58

If you really did donate sperm in 2000, you can apply to the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority to find out if any children were born from your donations. If any children have been born, they can tell you the number of children and their gender.

But then you are probably a troll ...

HappyWoman · 13/11/2008 12:58

thanks Kew
I thought i was missing the point somewhere there.

solidgoldbrass · 13/11/2008 13:00

Children/people don't need to know their biological origins. I was adopted as a baby and don't know mine. WHile I have occasionally mused about tracing my bio-relatives I have never actually got further than talking about it and now I am in my 40s I think it's just something that I will never do as it is not important. So I think all donors havea right to anonymity, and people who 'want to know' will just have to accept that you can't have everything you want.

zazen · 13/11/2008 13:01

You sound rather conflicted to me SD.

Were you offered counseling also at time of 'donation'? Could you get some now?
Are you really thinking that a wave of your 18yo boi-children will engulf you?

zazen · 13/11/2008 13:01

bio-children sorry for the typo

Kewcumber · 13/11/2008 13:02

perhasp they have all contacted each other via face-book and are planning a visit en-masse...

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SpermDoner · 13/11/2008 13:03

Happywoman:- it is anonymous. Can?t you spell? No I did not think about this at the time, I was giving to ppl what they did not have and was providing a service.

I have a new idendity and will move abroad next year.

I am proud of what I have done, but I have done it now and want no more contact with those 30 kids. Well if I have only fathered 10 kids, that?s 20 less of the blighters knocking on my door in 2018.

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HappyWoman · 13/11/2008 13:04

The 30 children must have come from 'different' donations!!!
Maybe several deed poll name changes - can that count as 'expenses' .

lulumama · 13/11/2008 13:06

why did you donate? what was your rationale? financial or something more altruistic?

HappyWoman · 13/11/2008 13:07

sorry i know i cant spell - medical career!!!

Would any of them want to contact you now though??

Are you really rich or something then?

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SpermDoner · 13/11/2008 13:07

Why would these boys and girls want to find me at 18? Isn?t there more important things to do at that age like getting drunk, taking drugs and having fun

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Simplysally · 13/11/2008 13:07

"By SpermDoner on Thu 13-Nov-08 10:52:33
Men who give theire sperm out to a sperm bank should remain aynomous"

lol!!

TigerFeet · 13/11/2008 13:07

What a load of crap

If you donated in 2000 (frankly I think you are bullshitting us, but still...) then you will remain anonymous. A fact that has been pointed out to you further up the thread, which you have chosen to ignore.

In any case I find it highly unlikely that any children that resulted from your donation (and again I ) would turn up unannounced on your doorstep just out of the blue one day. And even if they did, you would not be in any way responsible for them.

What an odd thread. Are you particularly bored today? I am - I love a good troll when I'm bored and am quite happy to feed it.

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SpermDoner · 13/11/2008 13:08

Happywoman:- u ask too many damn questions. what i earn etc is none of your business. Please keep to the issues.

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Simplysally · 13/11/2008 13:08
Kewcumber · 13/11/2008 13:08

how will they contact you? Have you left a forwarding address with the clinic?

Kewcumber · 13/11/2008 13:09

stick to what issue?

None of us have an issue.

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SpermDoner · 13/11/2008 13:10

tigerfeet:- that is a whole worry lifted from my shoulders.

I have read the post about 2000, and I am now happy. Thanks for the information.

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