What does your DH / DP do that shows you he loves you?

[swingsofglory]

...other than want to get your knickers off - that's just lust y'know, although it's great when you've got it.

I was thinking about this the other day when I met a friend's new bloke. He couldn't take his eyes off her. DP has no problem taking his eyes off me, but he does still tell me I'm beautiful without being asked, so i think that counts!

MrsMattie where did you go? yours sounds lovely!!

Tea every morning.

Buys me a present on dd's birthdays as a 'well done'.

Tells me I look beautiful all the time and if I ever ask if I look fat he always says 'no' (with meaning).

Ummm...
still scratching my head

He's late back from work and had a few drinks (midweek too!!) so not in the best frame of mind to remember the good things.

I do night and early shifts with kids, make her a packed lunch, do the food shop, cook dinner, do the gardening, empty the bins, get rid of spiders and all the other manly stuff ....

My mate does a bit of flowers, chocs and surprise but plays sports/drinks at weekend and he has a much easier life than me.

Think I will change my approach .

Sounds good to me TD! A spider catcher is always appreciated!

This is a lovely thread and has refreshed my appreciation of my DH. He:

Gets rid of spiders even though he hates them as much as I do, and possibly more
Buys me random presents ? both large things and little things like chocolate bars I?ve raved about liking in my childhood
Warms my side of the bed for when I come up in winter
Cooks lovely meals
Does my car maintenance for me
Sends me nice texts if I?m away from home
Has to be reminded to buy Christmas /birthday/ anniversary cards for me (I?m big on cards) but then writes wonderful messages in them
Patiently listens to me go on about the latest bad decision on the X Factor in spite of being not at all bothered
Has looked after me when I have been physically gross due to illness ? for instance, massaged lotion into my hugely swollen and hairy legs when I was in hospital
Drives out and picks me up when I ring for a lift at the end of a girls? night out, even if that means not having a beer when he would really like one
Offers me his coat, jumper etc if he thinks I might be cold somewhere
Runs baths for me
Bears it with good grace when I fill up the Sky box with stuff I want to watch but he doesn?t, and then take ages to get round to watching it, meaning that he can?t record Resident Evil II or similar

oh, I love this thread.

Even tho I had a DH for 26 years (we divorced) he even did some of those things for me... and for some reason it really made me sigh... (but don't want him back!)

Current DP (not live in)
Covers me over at night if covers slip off me,
Will sit so I can kiss him (he's 6ft 6 and I'm 5ft 3).
Kisses my blubbery baby belly even tho we have no kids together...
Says he loves me every day either by text or email or call..

It's not about what he does for me it's about him being there for everything - the happy, the sad, the good, the bad - his little smiley face is there to pick up the pieces, always.

nothing he tells me maybe a few times ayear that he loves me and forgets my birthday and our anniversary romance is dead in our house

1. He makes me lovely cups of tea without me asking
2. He buys me chocolate bars without me asking
3. When he gets in bed he warms up my side of the bed first. Aaw!

He is quite a softy really.

im feeling very hard done by

Gets out of bed at 5:30 am when dd waks up early on a saturday and wants to play and says "stay in bed darling you need the sleep"

Don't feel hard done by Candyfluff - maybe you could casually mention the endless cups of tea that other MN mates seem to make and see if anything comes of it!

little things like running me a bath if i am tired and bringing me a glass of wine in it

making me a cup of tea before i go to work - i should get up earlier than him

gone to get chocolate when i NEED it at 2am from 24hr garage

cook and washes up

he doesnt say he loves me often first, so when he does i know he really means it,but does say it,if i say it to him iykwim

always get kisses before we go out/get home if not together

forgot to add

he doesnt mind me putting my cold feet on his warm legs/feet in bed so i can warm them up

thats the best one to me

My DH cleaned up the incontinent kittens' accidents without ever complaining or expecting for a second that I would do it. That's love to me.

He makes me surprise hot water bottles and pops them in the bed before I go up.

He will watch Home and Away with me even though he's not remotely interested in it so I have someone to talk about the plot with.

He doesn't mind that I have huge crushes on Daniel Craig, Sean Bean and Gordon Ramsay.

Other than telling me quite a lot.

He calls me in his lunch hour for a chat.
He calls me on his way home to chat.

Makes tea for every morning.

Makes me breakfast every weekend.

Lets me watch trash TV and watches it with me even though he loathes it.

But actually how I really know he loves me is very very similar to Custardo and her DH.

I was late up one morning, scratchy, hair needed washing, wasn't well (have had awful chest infection) just felt grim and grubby. I was I was struggling to get into my dressing gown and getting more grimpy and realised he was staring at me. I snapped 'what' and he said 'aren't you beautiful'!

It's those moments that really count to me.

Like when I've been a cow and being stroppy and he'll just come over and hold me, really just hold me in his arms, kiss my neck and then let me get on with what I was doing.

Calls me beautiful every now and then or lovely when he's talking to me

Kally- not many of us can compete with 6ft 6in giant whatever posture he adopts for kissing, right!

BitOfFun- if spider catching impresses, i needn't mention the dead bird.

ok so now i feel REALLY hard done by i dont even get an offer of a drink yet i am expected to make him endless cups of tea .11 years down the line i dont think he can change. what am i doing wrong?????????????

My DP is only contactable by mobile during the week as he's a builder and working away. It broke a few days ago and he drove miles after he finished work at 10.30pm to find a phone-box to make his evening good-night call. He stood there in the freezing phone-box for nearly an hour talking to me. He's the lovliest man in the world (apart from all the other ones).

My dh hugs me and tells me I am all the world to him. He has sat and held my hand though six months of chemotherapy and tells my I am beautiful even though I am bald in patches and have no eyebrows. He has learned to cook and taken over the housework and childcare and he still finds time to find me books that he thinks I will enjoy. I love him to the moon and back.

Pigleto your post brought tears to my eyes. That is what a marriage is really about- helping each other through the worst of times.
Your husband sounds fantastic.

oh pigleto. lovely post. hope all is going well for you x