Should I be mad at my hubby

[happydays]

Last night in bed, dh cuddled up and said he wanted to do something different (how can I put this, a different hole sorry), I have told him more than once NO. He asked again and I said if you are that desperate for it then I will get my mate round (who does do it), at that point he replied "oh yeah, go on then" I was deeply hurt by this. He has now gone to play footy so I have not seen him today, and last night I just sulked and went to sleep.

Now I do not want my friend to come round in case he is thinking about her in that way. I know I bought it up, but it was in a 'You've gone on about this again and I am getting pi**ed off with it'. This could drive me insane and I do not need it.

Yes he did come home and was very sorry, he didn't realise how much I was upset my it.

I told him that I would consider it, only after I have shoved a courgette ........................................................................... (you know)

Happydays ... I would be as upset as you - like I am like Lou33 and would die rather than have anything going on in that part of my anatomy apart from what it was built for!
Glad that you seem to have sorted it out with your DH.
BTW ... ROFL at comments of others!!!

Happydays,
I made a simular comment to my DH years ago, and he has not mentioned it since !!!!
Proberbly, because he knows me well, and knows I would carry out any treats.
I also told him years ago, that if he ever cheated on me, I would rub raw chillies in his underpants !!!!

so Jac34, what kind on treats do you carry out

I have not needed to carry any out with DH, I think it's just, that he knows I would if I needed to !!!
However, I do carry out my threats with the boys,ie, withdrawl of treats or outings, because of bad behaviour.

I feel the same about mine. Out of the question, as it has not (and is not likely to) recovered from the birth of DS. I would tell him where to go.

DH was singing one finger one thumb to dd this evening (she's only 18mths) and his line was one finger one thumb, one finger up the bum!?! I think all men must have some thoughts like this sometimes in their lives, I also think they must be curious why men turn gay - who knows!

at the oiled (or not) courgette comments!

Latent homosexuality - my ar*e.
What makes this so attractive to men is the variety and naughtiness.
We're not monogamous by nature - only by culture and this involves denial of instincts. We choose to be in committed, faithful relationships but that doesn't mean that the sparkle is always there in bed.
How many divorces are caused by the gradual loss of interest of one or both partners? Probably the majority.
(Roast beef is great - but if you were to have it every day of every year - you would be really fed up.)
A bit of variety - possibly a birthday treat. A bit of a private giggle for a couple of weeks after. Where's the harm? Spice up your life - but gently does it.

Anyway - this innocent young girl was getting married to an older man - a sailor who was home from the sea. The night before her wedding her mother gave her a talk about sex - her very first lesson.
"Men have urges dear, and as a wife you have to tolerate them. Just lie back and think of England. But your husband-to-be has been at sea for many years and may have a couple of strange habits. If he ever asks you to turn around, just accept that as a dutiful wife you'll do as he wants."
They get married and she finds that she loves the nightly activities and realises that her mother's advice had been completely inappropriate. After a couple of weeks she says to her DH "Would you like me to turn around?" He replies "What! And fill the house with kids - not likely!"

Yes (breasts, lovely - we'd never leave the house) and yes (threads of a sexual nature - but everyone is entitled to a hobby).
Actually I've posted on several other threads - French holidays, alcohol abuse, etc - possibly you only view the sexual ones? ho ho

so stuartc, if you dp/dw got bored in bed and she wanted to shove a corgette up, would you be happy to do it, to put the sparkle back in bed?.

Maybe the reason i am put off, an ex boyfriend (v hugh), did it by accident once and I walked round like John Wayne for a few days in agony.

Of course I mean't huge no hugh. Name was Stuart actually, mmm did we meet several years ago?

Hmm stuartc, 'latent homosexuality' and 'my arse' in the same sentence...is there something you're not telling us?

Ah Stuartc - I just thought I'd add my twopenneth about the monogomy argument. Desmond Morris, who has done a great deal of research in this area has provided arguments to the contrary - i.e. that we are monogomous, in as much as a couple ARE designed to stay together and protect one another and their offspring, because of the ridiculously long childhood of the human species REQUIRING two parents to make the job easier (any single parent will tell you how tough it is to be the mother, father AND breadwinner of the family. Not easy). We do not live in harems like chimps and other apes. However that said, procreation and sexuality are still powerful, primal, complex forces in today's society and culture. Men AND women are as likely as each other to cheat (there is some evidence to support that fact that a significant percentage of children in this country are cuckolds (sp?) i.e. fathers are not the husbands or partners in question. You should read "The Naked Ape" (DM) and also "Baby Wars" and "Sperm Wars" (can't remember author offhand) - absolutely fascinating stuff!

It's a complicated issue - but it's only because you don't have the baby making equipment that you are "up for it" 24/7!!!

On the original thread issue though - my dh and I have tried it a few times (have to be really REALLY in the mood and has to be gently done for it not to be dreadful), but only after knowing each other for 11 years, and then we went and had a baby and the idea of doing any of those naughty things we used to enjoy seems bizarre now! Perhaps one day

Another thought after the breasts comment... It would also be fun to have a penis for a day! Well, perhaps two days!!! Probaby would spend the first day playing with it until it was sore! The next day I would go out, pee outside against hedges, sit with my legs open in bars, rearrange it without shame in the street... etc etc :D

Snickers - LOL

I wouldn't want one, even for 5 minutes. Imagine losing half your brain and being totally under the control of something between your legs instead?

Oh I love the diversity of mumsnet - from terribly earnest debates about smoking and comprehensive education, to misty nostalgia about childhood TV, to...this!! Oh and a free pop quiz too....this is NOT helping me hit today's deadlines!!!

and stuartc's gone awfully quiet

happydays - I've had a think about the courgette thing, and if you're definitely recommending it.......

I'll not suggest it to DP but if she proposed it I'd consider it. Why not? It might actually be fun. If it's not fun, then you don't do it a second time.
(Is it all right with you if she starts with something a bit smaller? I've got first time nerves.)
So far, nothing that either of us has proposed has been objectionable to the other.

I'm fascinated at the story of your ex-boyfriend getting there by accident - any chance of a few more details?

It was very dark

No seriously, doing it as you do, its slipped out and dp was a bit to eager to put it back in. Oops wrong hole. (don't know why I am going red, no-one can see me)