Martian looking for answers from Venus!!!!!

[MrMajestic]

Hi girls, hope some of you are still awake!
I wouldn't ordinarily post on a forum like this, but I've just been out with the guys (who I've got to say have done their level best to cheer me up) and I'm feeling a combination of a little low/sozzled, so I thought 'Hey, what the hell?'

I'm not looking for any magic bullet here, but I figure, who best to make sense of the cryptic minds of the fairer sex than a whole bunch of them together on the internet (fish in a barrel etc.)
Here's the skinny:
I'm getting to a certain age (40ihs) and realising that the ladies that I'm meeting, in a personal sense, just aren't cutting the mustard (broke up this week, my choice, but still an unhappy choice).
We had been together for a great 18 months, but I came to the conclusion that she didn't want me - she wanted what my lifesytle (even in this economic climate!). I suppose what I'm asking is 'How do I meet ordinary women?' And I don't mean that in a pejorative sense, I mean I want to meet 'real' women; ordinary if you will. I'm sure I'm making a fool of myself here, but taking risks is what I do for a living and that's what's got me to where I am today, so what the hell.
I await your slings and arrows!!!

Yes UA, come back!

'wheat from the chaff'? jesus...

"put up or shut up" Martian

in fact obsessive interests are a bit of a turn off

i had an extended email relationship with a guy who was obsessed with the film the wickerman....i started calling myself willow...tho ive never seen the film my research was good enough for him to be quite scared of me in the end lol

i also had a guy that sent photos of sheep to my phone

You obviously have the 'patience of a saint' Zippi. You should have been 'sorting the wheat from the chaff' quicker.

hahah zippi, sheep?!!

you get much more polite men than me

i met up with a guy, and after the second date he asked me if i would go dogging with him

his number has been deleted from my phone

Ken Dodd is supposed to be very good actually.

Not that I think it's first date material...

oh i had a policy of emailing anyone who looked fit regardless of anything else

So do we think that MrMajestic and saracenandy are one in the same???

Ahhh. A 'Risk Taker'.

You know taking risks is what Martian does for a living.

They may or may not be. There was an article by a bloke in The Times the other week saying basically if you want to understand women then look at Mumsnet.

I would imagine loads of blokes thought it might be worth a look.

well i did check out the norwich travelodge when i was contemplating meeting the very lovely daveisbored ...if that qualifies me as a risk taker

BalloonSlayer - if that is the case then perhaps I have been a bit mean. Still looks like obvious piss taking though

Would not say that us laydeez at MN were particualrly representative of single available women

men do talk funny tho

my dd1 bf actually asked me the other day over dinner when i was discussing buying a calor gas heater whether i was looking for an aesthetic room solution

dd and i fell about

they teach you all this "blue sky" way of thinking in the corporate world; what is a man to do if it comes naturally.

It is a jungle out there and only the best man will win.

Us "deal junkies" have to find ways to express ourselves without "stepping on toes"

It would be fairly terrifying to genuinely come to mumsnet to find out how to pull one of these ordinary women so in demand. They must think we're all demented.

zippi, are you asking for comments on risktaking re going to norwich, using a travelodge or meeting a man from the internet?

norwich sounds the biggest risk to me

Tough Daddy this seems to just flow out of you, you must be accustomed to 'thinking outside the box', 'going for gold' and 'striking while the iron is hot'.

Boco- yes, I am fluent in corporate speak. I will need it to climb the "hire wires".

Actually, I think that there will soon be a backlash/move to plain speaking sometime soon; it is sometimes hard to keep a straight face when you are subject to cliche talkers.

Maybe you shouldn't try to keep a straight face, maybe you should roar with laughter and jeer and say 'talk proper like, silly boy!'

difference between men and women men can only handle speaking one language so if they are corporate they speak corporate if the y are scientists they speak science military they speak military if dj they speak dj

all this has to be knocked on the head in front of a date

Will try it at the next off site.

zippitippitoes - or perhaps we blokes tend to take our work (too) seriously and never leave the office.

here it is

I read it in the paper last week and cited to DH as proof that I am highly intelligent.