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How do you tell a friend she has developed a moustache?

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Upwind · 09/10/2008 14:49

Tis very distracting and everyone looks twice. I can't bring myself to mention it.

But if I ever grow one I want to be told!

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Upwind · 09/10/2008 16:07

So, the consensus is she must be aware of it.

I'll say nothing, if I ever have the money and time to go down the beauty treatment route, I will!

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arthursmum · 09/10/2008 16:20

I think it depends what sort of friendship you have. Maybe have a girly get together pamper night and slip some hair remover cream into the mix? If it was one of my mates I would be quite happy to say "Come on Magnum, lets sort that bugger out".

I remember when my sister was about 12/13 she had a friend with BO. Everyone talked about him but she was the only one who spoke to him about it directly. They are still very good friends now and heading on their way to 30, sometimes the best thing is to be honest.

ilovemydog · 09/10/2008 16:22

I wouldn't mention it... She can't be so unobervant that she doesn't realize it's there?

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Upwind · 09/10/2008 16:24

Part of the problem is that I genuinely don't have a problem with excess hair myself (apart from an extraordinarily downy bump at the moment but I'm hoping that is temporary!).

I've never needed to wax a tache or even pluck my eyebrows yet. The only place I would consider using hair removal cream is my legs and I wouldn't even do that while pg. So if I brought up the subject it might sound like boasting.

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avacado · 09/10/2008 16:26

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Shitehawk · 09/10/2008 16:31

You don't.

She already knows, and the fact that it bothers you and "everyone looks twice" is your problem, not hers.

The fact you find it a problem says much, much more about you than her having one says about her.

BalloonSlayer · 09/10/2008 16:35

I have similar memories to Compo. Feel a bit tearful thinking about it, glad those days are gone

I always wonder about some women I know see, who have bleached a fairly abundant tache. They end up with a big blond moustache. Like the one on the "guess who" game.

Hair remover for me, backed up by tweezers and, in an emergency, a razor.

DD looks likely to be a fellow "member of the Groucho club" and I am determined to help her get rid of it as soon as it shows, not like my Mum who just said "oh a bit of facial hair is quite attractive."

twoboots · 09/10/2008 16:39

don't mention it.
I am a long term member of the monthly waxing club. I have issues going back to school discos. Hairy marys like myself don't like to be reminded by friends (that is what our mothers are for!)

crokky · 09/10/2008 16:43

You must not say anything!!!

From my 20s, I got some black hairs growing on the bottom of my chin. Everybody obviously knew they were there, even though I pulled them out with tweezers etc. Then I got some electrolysis. Then a (female) work colleague came to me and said look, I hope you don't take offence, but I can see you've had something done, I really like it, can you tell me what it was etc. I didn't take offence and that's fine especially as it was a compliment. So we talked about it and she had some little ones that I had noticed, but never said anything about - she wanted to get hers done as well.

I think it is HIGHLY likely that she knows they are there and would be embarassed. I am the least vain person I know and I would find it a bit embarassing.

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Upwind · 09/10/2008 16:47

Shitehawk, I don't have a problem with it, I just find it a bit surprising since she's never had one before. If she suddenly started wearing cerise lipstick or a blonde wig, that would also be a bit distracting.

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MadamePlatypus · 09/10/2008 16:47

Don't mention it. I can't think of a scenario where you would get a positive response. Unless of course she is famous and you think she might appear in an unflattering photo spread in Heat. In that situation I would just come right out with it.

MrsBates · 09/10/2008 16:49

No bleach - I went from being Frida Kahlo to Asterix in one stinging session. Now it is dealt with by wax or cream.

Is electrolysis good?

compo · 09/10/2008 16:52

'I've never needed to wax a tache or even pluck my eyebrows yet. '

definitely don't say anything then as you can't even commiserate!!

retiredgoth · 09/10/2008 16:52

...I think great subtlety and tact is called for.

Perhaps you could slip some of this in her bag?

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Upwind · 09/10/2008 17:00

retired goth

Compo I do have to dye my eylashes to avoid looking really freaky if that's any consolation

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LostHorizon · 09/10/2008 17:03

Are moustachioed women hairer elsewhere too? Forearms, pits etc?

MadamePlatypus · 09/10/2008 17:04

Yes. Us dark haired people wander past the mascara section of Boots and laugh. Before spending lots of money on very expensive depilatory methods and getting our roots done regularly. Mascara though - not an issue.

bloss · 09/10/2008 17:05

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MrsBates · 09/10/2008 17:07

Sounds great. I'll look into it. Thanks.

Scarletibis · 09/10/2008 17:13

I find bleaching is good + tweezering for the odd strain chin hair.

Have had electrolysis in the past but it is painful and pricey and I'm not convinced it worked that well in my case.

Wuxiapian · 09/10/2008 17:13

I have a few hairs on my chin/sides of my face.

I know they're there.

I know people look at it.

Nobody has ever commented on it (yet) and I wouldn't appreciated it if they felt the need to.

If I want to pluck/wax/electrolysis it, I will, but I don't.

I don't because I don't want to damage my skin and start something I'd forever have to keep up (like hair-dyeing.

It's only natural afterall.

Jux · 09/10/2008 17:22

I have recently grown a moustache! The hairs are very fine and blonde and I wasn't sure whether I could get away with it or not. I used Immac and Veet on it, but neither had much effect, so I forgot about it for a while. One day my friend's 11yo son said "she's got a moustache, mum" but actually I wasn't embarrassed or upset - he made me laugh in fact, well he was only telling the truth. Some weeks later I was noodling about waiting for a prescription and saw they had some Louis Marcel facial hair remover, so I got that, and it's very good and very easy, and I don't have a moustache any more (or not very often!).

Jux · 09/10/2008 17:23

Of course, what I really want is a long white flowing beard which I can plait and thread beads on. No sign yet.

dittany · 09/10/2008 18:29

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cory · 09/10/2008 18:53

I knew it: I do live in a parallel universe (more fur in this one ).

I am just sitting here with my hair head reeling at the thought of one of my friends going to the whole trouble of inviting me out for a girlie lunch just to tell me that I've got a few facial hairs. Oh well, as long as she pays for it. I'd

If a tache is good for a lunch and some free hair removal- how much do you think I can get out of a squint? Trip to the theatre? Day out in the countryside? I didn't know I had it, folks- honest!

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