Is this the era of infidelity?

[objectivityislivid]

Or do we just have better means of discovery? (mobile, email, etc.?)

And...are we just supposed to take this crap - moving from one long term/short...A life littered with relationships and the odd discarded child along the way?

Just wondered.

Blimey SG, for someone who deosn't rate monogamy, you spend an inordinate amount of time thinking and talking about it.

I couldn't care less either way. Whatever floats yer boat. I do object to children being caught in the crossfire trhough. Unforgivable.

portofino - i think i live on a different planet to you

NLG - Why? I was trying to be objective about stuff. Honestly, one half of me thinks that we don't try so hard any more to make things work, and the other half sees that there are complete bastards out there who aren't worth any effort. I guess I'm sitting on the fence if anything....

I don't know if it is as simple as either being, by nature, manogomous or not. People can enter into marraige with the belief that they will be entirely faithful because the condition of the marraige at the time is good (one would assume!)But people do change. I never thought for a moment that I would have had it in me to consider sleeping with another man whilst married to my DH but I did come very close to cheating.

Does lack of fidelity have to mean loss of love for your partner? I'd like to think that I am realistic enough now to know that humans sometimes have emotional and personal crisis' which can lead to them making choices they might not have thought themselves capable of when they married.

Is it fair to expect monogomy under any & all circumstances? My DH has hardly been interested in me sexually for the past 8 years. I knew this when I married him but I thought I was well able to remain faithful until our issues were dealt with. I made my marriage vows in good faith that DH would seek help......he hasn't yet and I feel near breaking point.......people are fallible.