Men who 'fall' quickly - do they in all actuality exist?

[Yeyeayo]

I have recently started dating again and am amazed to find that all the men that I have dated claim that they want to be in a relationship with me after no more than two or three meetings. And I have always expressed the need to take things sloooowly. Plus I am not willing to give up being single for just anyone.
This is something that I am NOT accustomed to (although it has been seven years since I have dated) and I am used to men playing it cool and taking their time. As a result, I tend to think that these men are all full of doo doo.
However, I am now starting to wonder whether this is my issue and not theirs. I'm certain some of these men are trying to be players, but all of them?
So please tell me, do any of you know of men who actually do fall for women quite quickly and are not just trying to get into their pants/highly immature?

UmSami, your post made me laugh
Glad to see another positive example.

LOL @ me being a babe - I think part of the problem may be that I look younger than my years - maybe that's confusing them and making them think I'm easy pickings ;). Wonder whether the two children exacerbate that idea too.

Do I sound slightly cynical?

my dh was like this. Met in december proposed by March - happily married 10 years and counting,,,

I think it generally reflects strong rush if emotion. Not specifically 'manipulation' - nor necessarily the same implications as 'love' might have once you've actually built a proper relationship.

So I'd say follow your gut - but don't necessarily think badly of the man involved,

vaguely knew dh as he drank in the pub I worked in.

Got together July - dh moved in a week later, engaged August ( sure the three weeks I had back in Aus meant it took longer than it would have) Dh was pretty sure very early on. I was a little more reserved.

Married October - only cause we had to use half term time and we wanted to get married in Aus.

Pregnant with dd1 Nov.

About to celebrate 7 years together next month - three dds and a move across the world.

I think you genuinely know those who may be serious and those who are using it as a line. As you have said - you are certain some of these are players and some are not. As time goes on - you will know the difference.

Yeyeyao...whats wrong with a bit of cynicism anyway? Thats why I told hubby he'd not got a chance...all seemed a little odd to me at the time...persistant fool kept coming back tho, finally I caved...It retrospect I'm glad he's an annoying sod who always has to have his own way...
All of that aside, I am a great believer in trusting your gut, if you don't feel comfortable please tread v. carefully!

Well, some of them will believe that declaring love is the quickest way to get sex.
Some will be utterly desperate for a relationship
SOme will be manipulators or control freaks.

On the 'nice' side, some will be the sort of people who say 'Oh I love you' to everyone ie the pizza delivery boy, their best friend, their hamster...
Some will think they love you because you represent a challenge (and they are the sort of bucketheads who think that'real' love will'heal' you or other such crap)
And some will be genuinely 'in love' with you.

But the thing about falling in love is that people do it all the time, it only becomes a relationship when the fallen-in-love-with one is interested in having a relationship.

And absolutely all of the above applies to women as well as men.

SGB, I like your breakdown
What scares me most are those who truly believe they are in love but don't actually know the meaning - think they may be a bit harder to suss.

UmSami - I promise I will be treading very carefully

Yup DH, hinting he loved me after 2 weeks, engaged after 2 months, now been together 13.5 years and married for 9.

My Dh said he loved me on the second date and I said "don't be silly". We were engaged after 3 months, but waited to get married (as I was still studying). Have been happily married for nearly 5 years, together for 9 now.

We still are very soppy and are always telling each other how much we love each other and he is generally just a lovely, emotional, kind and caring man.

But before he met me he had had loads of one night stands and lots of girlfriends (hence my "don't be silly").

DH asked me to marry him on our 6th meeting. We are still together 15 years later but it took me some while lonber to fall for him.

XH1 proposed after 6 weeks. XH2 proposed after 3 weeks. Both were dominators.

I've been seeing bf for 7 weeks and he hasn't told me that he loves me, although I'm getting pretty strong messages that he does feel deeply for me.

It's odd cos sometimes I feel dissappointed but most of the time I'm glad that he is sensibly taking things slow and seeing how things pan out.