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Original poster

mil left dd asleep in car on drive....

62 replies

wja · 22/09/2008 21:01

we struggle to get her to babysit anyway and when she did this occurred! she said only 4 15mins and she could see her from window...what do you ladies think?

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mamazee · 22/09/2008 21:34

hope you didn't have a go at here before posting

pucca · 22/09/2008 21:35

I do this myself if ds falls asleep in the car, i leave a window open slightly and as long as they are of course not in direct sunlight.. where is the harm?

NorthernLurker · 22/09/2008 21:35

Your mil left your baby in a safe space and watched her the whole time and she has resorted to paid childcare when she was supposed to be babysitting for you for free? The woman's a monster!

Seriously - - unless and until she has your dd drinking poison, playing with tigers or lunching entirely from Greggs - you maybe need to relax a bit!

mamazee · 22/09/2008 21:37

lol at 'lunching entirely from greggs'

mamazee · 22/09/2008 21:37

did she leave the engine running ?

bythepowerofgreyskull · 22/09/2008 21:38

I don't understand - tbh I think your problem is with her and no matter how she looked after your child you would have found fault. - I'm out.

seeker · 22/09/2008 21:41

You're not impressed by what?

That she didn't want to wake your sleeping baby so she left her perfectly safely in her car seat until she woke up?

That while looking after your baby for you she paid for her to go in a creche so that she could attend her normal gym session?

Or some other dreadful crime that you haven't yet told us about

LapleLittin · 22/09/2008 21:45

if you want your child's grandmother to look after her occasionally for free, then trust her to care for her properly - as she appears to have done so far.

if you want to dictate terms to a babysitter, then pay for one.

mamazee · 22/09/2008 21:45

ok i have lost the plot now...have i missed someything ? whats the background ? about the gym ? a creche ?
i am feeling a bit lost ?

harpomarx · 22/09/2008 21:52

actually I have never felt comfortable with this - either doing it myself or seeing other people do it.

fine if always within sight, otherwise I don't like it, it makes me uneasy. I know some children always wake up when lifted from car, dd didn't so unless I was somewhere really quiet, I didn't.

NorthernLurker · 22/09/2008 21:54

The gym stuff comes from a post from the op at 21.08. Mil had the nerve to book child into a creche whilst at the gym apparently.

mamazee · 22/09/2008 21:57

thanks northern.

jonamum · 22/09/2008 21:57

Sorry, I am with op on this one. I wouldnt be comfortable with my dc being left in a car. What if she had woken suddenly alone, was the car unlocked? if so it only takes a moment for someone passing to open the door....I would definately have to say something.

RealityGap · 22/09/2008 21:57

For me the issue isn't wither anyone else was happy with it - if you were unhappy I would mention it to MIL.

I haven't ever done this with my kids - have known other people to do it - which is fair enough, but I personally wouldn't leave them in the car and go for coffee. Cars get hot and stuffy and I wouldnt want to sit in one for 15 mins so I wouldnt leave my kids to.

IAteDavinaForDinner · 22/09/2008 21:58

Hmmmm, instinctively I don't like this idea. I too would feel uncomfortable with it. [waits for cries of "PFB!" and pointing]

Probably unreasonable of me, but hey, if you're uncomfortable and it's your child in question then that's all that matters, right?

PootyApplewater · 22/09/2008 21:58

the child could be seen from the window of the house.
The Childcatcher can't lurk in every garden hedge at once.

seeker · 22/09/2008 21:59

Oh for crying out loud - what is going to happen to a sleeping child in a private drive in a locked car?

mamazee · 22/09/2008 22:02

god people are much more paranoid than i thouhght

aintnosaint · 22/09/2008 22:02

I've only done this with one of my dc, she only ever seemed to sleep when she was in the car and never settled properly in a cot, moses basket etc.

I used to drive around for a little while till she fell asleep then park up in our drive way, leave the car door open and sit in the garden keeping an eye on her till she woke up.

IAteDavinaForDinner · 22/09/2008 22:02

It's not so much the idea that someone's going to snatch my child (goodness knows they'd soon bring him back ) as the idea that they're going to wake up and wonder where the hell everyone is!

NorthernLurker · 22/09/2008 22:04

Imo the only risk is temperature and I suspect that the op's mil, having raised at least one child of her own, probably has enough sense to have managed that one. I also think that had the Childcatcher turned up she and her coffee drinking pal would have beaten said catcher to a pulp. The majority of grandmothers love our dcs too you know and are as unlikely as us to wilfully endanger them!

(ducks in anticipation of posts from folk whose mil etc are loons with no sense or childcare skills)

Thomcat · 22/09/2008 22:05

OH! You appear to be annoyed that people have given you their opinion! LOL! You clearly don't want to know, although you did ask, but whatever! I'd have been cool with it, and I know that for a fact as it's happened with my kids and my parents and what's more I do it myself.

wheresthehamster · 22/09/2008 22:05

Am fine with the car but not with the creche if she didn't ok this with you beforehand.

If you don't like her ways though, don't let her babysit!

Mutt · 22/09/2008 22:06

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mammyofET · 22/09/2008 22:20

No no no. I would never ever do this. I am genuinely not scaremongering but I know of a child who died because of an electical fault that caused a fire in a car when they were 'playing in it' as we did when we were children.

Ok this was 25+ years ago and I see that the risk of this is tiny but the consequences are too huge for me to ever do this or be happy with anyone else ever doing it with my ds.

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