Is it worth opening old wounds to (attempt to) achieve 'closure'?

[AudreyII]

Ten years ago someone very close to me hurt me really bad. Today I received contact from him via facebook and I'm in a real dilema as to whether to reply. It will involve facing some long-buried demons, but is it worth it? I think I'm strong enough, but don't know if it is worth the risk? If he says sorry and admits his part in it then I will be happy but it's risky. I have a huge weight in the pit of my stomach just thinking about him.

Audrey, love, Ok, he's apologised. Now leave it. Because if he has Undergone Personal Growth enough to apologise to you, then that's good, and you can move on happily.
If he's worked out that contrition will get him more blowjobs/sympathy/cash and he's out to fuck you over again, then you're only going to get hurt again, and it will hurt even more the second time around. Better to close the door and move on thinking well of him than try to pursue further contact and it all go horribly wrong.

Sorry, also, the 'it's not his fault, poor wickle thing got hurted badly in the past' is a crock of shit, frankly. He's an adult. He can deal with his own crap, he doesn't have to, or have the right to, pass it along to other people.

solid - but he wasn't an adult 10 years ago by any means. Also can we drop the blowjob bit - it wasn't actually a sexual relationship (I know it's not the most important bit but it makes me feel odd talking about him like that)

Audrey, OK so he was just a bully. Even more reason to simply walk away. You've had an apology: what more could you want? If he's learned his lesson and his apology is sincere, then that's a good thing, but let it end there. An apology is going to be as good as it gets, because there is the possibility that he has learned to do convincing apology in order to manipulate former victims some more : pursuing contact will send him the message that you will accept him fucking about with you again, that you like being bullied by him. Walk away and you can believe the best of him, pursue contact and you may very well end up having the worst confirmed.