Very upset, angry, embarrassed, feel like crying

[SpaceWoman]

Last week I showed my wedding photos to a woman I thought was my friend. She said they were 'lovely' and asked me where I'd got my wedding dress from and my son's suits etc.

Anyway a few days later I recognised her username on a website (she'd mentioned the site before, I'd had to odd look but never used it properly, this time I stumbled on her name by accident). Anyway the subject line was:

"Just been looking at someone's wedding photos and...."

So obviously I clicked on it, admittidly expecting that she'd written nice things about us and the message went like this: (copied and pasted)

"OMG. It was like an episode of shameless! pmsl. She'd got her wedding dress on credit from the catalogue and the kids suits looked about 3 sizes too big for them (probably so they can wear them again at her next wedding lol). The lot of them looked dog rough, tattoos showing, half of them looked pissed up, her hubby didn't even look as if he'd had a shave! I know I probably sound like a right snobby cow but honestly, can't these people even make an effort for one bloody day?"

I know its me she's on about. I started crying when I'd read it and have felt like crying ever since. I've never felt so hurt. I thought she was a friend.

Someone actually replied and put

"and this woman is your friend??"

and so she replied

"god no, she just takes her kids to the same school as we do".

I don't know whether to confront her, ignore her, reply to her post or what.

I've name changed because she knows my usual username (although as far as I know doesn't use this site).

Why are people so bloody horrible and nasty all the time? what's the point?

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at the people who think she's not genuine because they can't google her story. It's easy to keep directories out of google and other search engines. They follow the Robots Exclusion standard and all publish very clear guides on how to make sure robots (eg googlebot) don't crawl the site and how to remove pages from their indices. Many forums use this; it's kinda a halfwayish point between having to log in to view and having everything available to anyone who googles.

Also... actually let's just say there are lots of reasons the posts haven't shown up on google.

Sorry, im just not believing this. Iv just searched on two separate 'forum search' websites, and nothing came up. I also googled the first line of the post that the op had "copied and pasted". The bit about an episode of shameless. On mnet came up.

ooops x posts with JJ.
Am quite happy to be proved wrong then

OK - am ignoring those who don't believe you, to say I think it's a vicious and horrible thing to do and it's womanhood at its most vile. I hope you can let it go and accept that that woman is seriously nasty. She's probably also a very miserable person if that's what she does for kicks.

That is really, really nasty. I don't have any suggestions to add beyond those who have written already.

There is a chance she exaggereated her venomous post to get people interested, or that there is an element of jealousy that's started her off - but whatever reason she did it, she was deeply cruel with what she said.

I would steer clear of her, and if you see her in the street just smile, nod, move on without stopping to chat.

And don't worry about it. It sounds like you had a lovely day on your wedding.

oh dear, I posted before realising the credulity of the OP was put in question.

Well all fools us for caring, eh? never mind either way.

I think Custardo has the best idea. Better to know than spend time with someone like that.

name changed. one post to start this thread off and disappears

If you are real then come back and post again. We have all been very supportive until you decided not to post again, that's when suspicions arose - you wouldn't name the thread.

We know you are reading this so why not respond and show us all you are genuine, then we would have no reason to doubt you.

27 days since my kitchen was installed!! That made me spit out my tea!! HEEEEEEELarious.

PS, loved that first picture of the bride slurping red wine in her white wedding dress and letting somebody else shave her pit. I bet she wasn't a nightmare bridezilla.

Kitchen is installed, actually

That means the ticker was there before the kitchen was installed and the first bit changed after the date, iyswim.

I wonder if the kitchen was on time or maybe a bit overdue...or breach...

the mind boggles.

MlleFingot - Actually, I have often wondered, when posting on here, how many mners have got new kitchens, and sometimes even bathrooms. It exasperates me that I do not know exactly how many days, hours, minutes and seconds these kitchens and bathrooms have been installed!

thats really nasty and pointless, why would she do that>

I would reply on the same thread, along the lines of "I think that I may be in the bride in question, thanks for helping to make my wedding day so special and your loving support for us as a couple"

Leave the bitchy-ness to the other people on that website who will soon stand up for you, nasty woman