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Very upset, angry, embarrassed, feel like crying

63 replies

SpaceWoman · 15/09/2008 16:40

Last week I showed my wedding photos to a woman I thought was my friend. She said they were 'lovely' and asked me where I'd got my wedding dress from and my son's suits etc.

Anyway a few days later I recognised her username on a website (she'd mentioned the site before, I'd had to odd look but never used it properly, this time I stumbled on her name by accident). Anyway the subject line was:

"Just been looking at someone's wedding photos and...."

So obviously I clicked on it, admittidly expecting that she'd written nice things about us and the message went like this: (copied and pasted)

"OMG. It was like an episode of shameless! pmsl. She'd got her wedding dress on credit from the catalogue and the kids suits looked about 3 sizes too big for them (probably so they can wear them again at her next wedding lol). The lot of them looked dog rough, tattoos showing, half of them looked pissed up, her hubby didn't even look as if he'd had a shave! I know I probably sound like a right snobby cow but honestly, can't these people even make an effort for one bloody day?"

I know its me she's on about. I started crying when I'd read it and have felt like crying ever since. I've never felt so hurt. I thought she was a friend.

Someone actually replied and put

"and this woman is your friend??"

and so she replied

"god no, she just takes her kids to the same school as we do".

I don't know whether to confront her, ignore her, reply to her post or what.

I've name changed because she knows my usual username (although as far as I know doesn't use this site).

Why are people so bloody horrible and nasty all the time? what's the point?

OP posts:
Nappyzoneneedssleep · 15/09/2008 17:14

oh i would be getting on there and keep changing your username and basically slate her - how awful! She is prob tryingt o make herself look good by totally going ott and bulling about stuff Beatch! Cant we have a link so we can dive bomb her!

OneLieIn · 15/09/2008 17:18

What a cow!

Ignore her or confront her and tell her that she is two faced.

Alternatively post her address on here or the link to the website and we will add comments for you.

RubyRioja · 15/09/2008 17:21

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FioFio · 15/09/2008 17:24

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Lauriefairycake · 15/09/2008 17:25

be grateful you weren't really close friends

one less cunt in this life you have to be friends with

(sorry for you though - you had a lucky escape)

Tortington · 15/09/2008 17:27

i qould reply - a simple
"thanks you for your comments"

so she knows you know.

then ignore her for life

Saturn74 · 15/09/2008 17:30

or post on her thread

"it sounds like you feel very threatened by this woman. I'm assuming you are jealous of her, and are so socially inept that you have to pick fault with her perfect day in order to feel better about yourself?
I pity you."

Notalone · 15/09/2008 17:48

. What a nasty horrible bitch. I would say she must have a pretty sad life if all she can think to post about are your wedding photo's. Especially if (as she has put it), you are not even friends.

Are you going to let her know you know?

Twelvelegs · 15/09/2008 17:51

Anyone that uses the phrase 'dog rough' is rough. What a horrid woman, although you really shouldn't have read it (I would have) as you just never know what you'll find!
Just avoid and ignore her.

FromGirders · 15/09/2008 17:58

Hmm, I just googled "just been looking at someone's wedding photos and", to try and find your "friend's" thread so we could all tear strips off her. This thread came up, but nothing else - if this isn't (an impressively good) wind up, then can you link to the thread so we can give her a piece of our minds?

forevercleaning · 15/09/2008 18:02

OP not been back either

MarlaSinger · 15/09/2008 18:04

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SpookyMadMummy · 15/09/2008 18:04

Agree fromgirders, I googled the first line of the c&p paragraph and got this thread only

TheNaughtiestGirlIsaMonitor · 15/09/2008 18:06

Hmmmm. You sound fat and you have tattooes and ugly children. Get off mumsnet you big troll

Lol, very nearly an excellent troll! Well done spacer!

EyeballsintheSky · 15/09/2008 18:06

LOL at us all googling. I did too and got this thread

Paddlechick666 · 15/09/2008 18:07

not all forums allow their threads to be detected by google or any search engine for that matter.

i regularly post on another site that does not allow forum threads to appear in search engines.

forevercleaning · 15/09/2008 18:09

Talking of wedding photos - CHECK OUT THESE!

look here

MlleFingeot · 15/09/2008 18:17

God, another wedding bitchfest on Babaycenterrrr

Check out the '27 days since my kitchen was installed' ticker.

georgimama · 15/09/2008 18:20

How the hell does everyone follow threads on babycenter when each poster's life history comes up after every post - I read 2 comments and gave up, the bouncing text and tickers were too much for me!

MlleFingeot · 15/09/2008 18:20

Sorry that was nothing to do with your OP!

I hope you are Ok. What a rubbish friend though

Spidermama · 15/09/2008 18:24

SpaceWoman you have to try and rise above it. She's the twisted sad fuck full of nasty energy who feels the need to go off and bitch about people who've extended the hand of friendship toward her.

Though I feel for you, I actually feel more sorry for her because she's the one carrying this ugliness inside her.

Don't take what she said to heart. She's probably exagerating, trying to be funny to make friends and impress people on the internet. Saddo.

I'm sorry you feel hurt.

FromGirders · 15/09/2008 18:25

OMG, they have "awards" for most supportive poster, and best signature!!!
Paddlechick, I realise that not everything is google-able - that's why I asked the oP to post a link if she fancied a lynch-mob

Notalone · 15/09/2008 18:29

Lets all listen to paddle please just in case. This poor lady has had her special day insulted publicly and is probably feeling shit enough without being called a troll. One of my friends came to MN after a bereavement and got called a troll and it cut her to the quick so I am hyper sensitive to troll accusations. BTW I have been very sucked in by a troll on here (remember the pregnant lady who was suffering domestic violence and then gave birth to a prem daughter but posted a picture of someone else baby when asked if she had any pics) so I can sort of understand why people bite but please consider there is a good chance she is genuine

flubdub · 15/09/2008 18:33

This website searches forums for you, but Im not sure if its just US ones. Im not v good at working it, can other people try?

flubdub · 15/09/2008 18:34

Oh, I meant this one, but they both do it I think.

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