Reading through posts about people who have survived affairs, gives me courage to post (though I know some of you will disapprove).
Brief precis: since dd (3) was born, in fact since I was pregnant, relationship with dp has gone steadily off - from my point of view. Nothing DREADFUL but it used to be an equal partnership and now I feel pushed into a "mother/housewife" role (even though I work part time). And when I try to talk about problems, I seem to do it all wrong because he either gets angry or says "he doesn't have any problem with that".
Well, lots of other things too but anyway a year ago I started having an affair with a colleague. Other things being equal I am very confident we would have been a good partnership. In the end he tried to leave his present relationship (no children) - to the extent of renting a flat and moving his stuff out - but just couldn't leave. So I have ended that relationship - last week, in fact - and am facing up to having to rebuild a relationship with dp that he doesn't even seem to realise has gone so badly wrong.
Any suggestions? I'm sure it partly involves me being (a) nicer to him and (b) more honest. My biggest fear is that I'll try and either not be able to do it or that he'll just be quite happy to take whatever I give without changing at all himself.
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Trying to love husband again after affair (mine!)
ML · 12/02/2003 17:22
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