Mums of boys: at what age do you stop getting naked/weeing etc in front of them?

[DrNortherner]

As a mum of boys I'm sure we all bathe/wee/change tampax etc in front of them.

When to stop?

I can't see why one bathroom is a reason to be seen naked, unless it hasn't got a lock and you always leave the door open!

It is all down to personal taste really- my kids hardly ever saw me naked- I don't think- although my DD did once shout out in John Lewis changing rooms- "I can see your chesters"- when I was buying a bra. and she also wanted to touch my pubes at one point - around 3 years.

That was time to draw the line.

One bathroom, and yes, no lock and you can't shut the door all the way (always seem to end up with towels draped over the top of it!) DS1 is 10, is happy to walk around in his pants but is a bit shyer of being fully naked nowdays (still does it though, just acts coy) None of them seem bothered catching me naked. Although I don't tend to go out of my way to do it, I'll streak through the flat if all my underwear or the towels are in the clean washing in the kitchen, and the little gits always plan squabbles when I'm trying to get a bit of 'me time' on the toilet cue all three of them bursting in on me.......

As a family, if we're home over the weekend we tend to slob out half dressed anyway (DS's have changed out of their uniform as we speak, and are playing in the front room wearing T's and pants only)

Never changed tampons in front of the kids. Why would you?
Very rarely weed in front of them. Have always had locks on bathroom and was brought up in house with locks on bathroom. No-one ever got stuck in bathroom, although lock is high so toddler who wouldn't be able to operate it couldn't reach.
My kids know if someone is in the bathroom they wait until they come out. If they need a wee desperately they knock on the door.
Kids can cope without their mothers for 5 minutes you know.
The travel cot made a useful playpen/prison when they were dangerous unsupervised and I needed to go to the loo.
I'm not bothered if they wander in on me getting changed, if they know I'm getting changed they usually don't though as they're older and have better things to do.

My eldest two have started to make me feel uncomfortable when naked by making comments about my wobbley bum or OOh nice bra.

Will still wee in their presence though if I need to.

would neve remove/insert a tampon in front of anyone

some things are just meant to be private

when you go to the toilet when you are out do you all leave your toddlers outside the toilet on their own then?

also ds comes in the bathroom with me when i have a bath. he doesn't mind being on his own for a short while but not for the 45 mins it takes me to have a wash, brush my teeth, have a bath, shave various places, wash my hair, get dressed and do my makeup. if i'm on my period then changing tampons gets added into this and i don't feel i should usher him out of the room tbh. he would just come back in anyway if i did (no lock).

When DS shields his eyes and runs screaming from the room I will know it is time to start covering up in front of him.

I've never gone to the loo in front of my children. Why would I? I'm clearly missing something here. As for getting changed etc, I do that all the time and they haven't run out of the room screaming yet (8&10).

and I wouldn't think twice about inserting or removing a tampon in fron tof DS. He doesn't bat an eyelid any more (but knows all about it lol).

What's to hide about it?

how old is ds omdb?

Quattro you are a very lucky lady then.

DS used to follow me into the bathroom. There was no getting away from him.

Now I'm not going to shut or lock the bathroom door every time I need to use it, DS is free to wander in and out as he chooses.

5

not yet.

dont think my mu has stopped yet either... and my youngest sibling is 26

yes i don't always shut the door for a wee at home but even if i did he can open the door anyway.

why ewww kerry?

It's just a normal part of every womna. I'd rather DS knew about it and thought of it as normal tbh.

I've never done tampax in front of my DD, I just wouldn't want to have to explain it to her so young, so I def won't be doing it in front of my DS who is just one. But naked, weeing etc is all fair game surely until they object and therefore stop coming in the bathroom? I never wear any pj's or anything at all in bed, so when I get the kids up, I am mostly entirely nekked until it's time to drag them downstairs after DD has peed, put her slippers and dressing gown on, had her hair clipped back so it doesn't get covered in porridge and DS has been nappy changed. All this done mostly nekked - when they stop waking me up so early, I'll put on a dressing gown

Mmm - tampax a personal thing for me so wouldn't wish anyone to see me changing one - whether DH, my sister or my kids.

DS nearly 2 and I see watching me on the toilet and telling him what is going on a part of education leading up to him being toilet trained I guess. Don't know when I will stop.

Had a shower with 4 year old nephew last year. I would start to feel a bit funny about doing that now - he is nearly 6.

lol kerry, no I woulsn't want to see anyone else inserting or removing a tampon, nor would I do it in front of anyone else, but with your own DCs it's different.

If DS doesn't want to see it he can jolly well give me some privacy instead of always coming in to watch grrrrrr

Just a another thing about the tampax thing - I have never let him see me pulling one out (sorry TMI), but he has been there when I've put one in.

x

My DS is only 2 so don't really need to worry yet, would never do the Tampax insertion thing though, my brother actually stuck one up his arse when he was 4 because he saw my mum doing it. PSML. Oh the stories for his 18th he's 13 now and still reacts if I call him Pax LOL his mates look puzzled

I know that children can manage without their mothers for 5 minutes but they sometimes forget. And usually time a fight for when DH is out and I am in the shower. Latest thing is that the kitten has worked out how to open the bathroom door if it is not properly clicked closed (is en-suite so normally just pull it to).

DS (7) has started wanting privacy for pooing but other than that we are all pretty free and easy about nakedness. DD (4) went to the bathroom with her friend when she was doing a poo and then came telling tales that she was smelly. Well just don't go there then DD.

DS's 11 and nearly 9 - they walk in all the time to the bathroom/shower room and talk to me and DH. DS1 walked into the bedroom this morning and I did not have any clothes on - he did not bat an eyelid.

DS1 has started to close and lock the door when he goes to the toilet though. DS2 still sits there with the door wide open for everyone to see.

Putting tampons in/taking out - I would lock the door.