I have nothing against my DP having female friends. However, there's one woman who seems to always push it that little bit too far. I am loath to say anything because they were friends long before I came along, but I'm starting to feel increasingly uncomfortable when she is around.
I am pregnant with our first child.
DP and I went out on Saturday and she was there. I get the feeling she'd had quite a lot to drink when we arrived, as she was on her own and as soon as we got there she joined us.
Her sister has recently been diagnosed as terminally ill, which is terribly sad, she's only in her mid-50s. DP's friend is very, very upset and I understand that she needs friends round her for support. I'm not a heartless cow, I like the woman (or I did until Saturday.).
I've noticed quite often on previous meetings that she's VERY touchy-feely with my DP. Stands with her arm round him when talking to him, touches him all the time. He's commented on this to me when drunk, but he doesn't remember, says sometimes she takes the physical contact a little bit too far and makes him feel a bit uncomfortable, however he thinks the world of her.
On Saturday we were at an open-air concert. My friend also came along, and even she noticed the level of physical contact between them. She puts her hand on his face when he talks to her. She puts her arm around him all the time. She stands and talks to him on the opposite side to where I am so nobody else can hear what they say to each other. At one point on Saturday, she was standing on her own, and he went over to ask her to join us. She didn't come, so he stayed with her. I went off to get drinks and when I came back they'd eventually come over to where we'd been standing. As soon as I got there she walked off again and stood on her own. She kept bringing red wine and topping up DP's drink with it but offering nobody else any.
Then at the end of the night he had to get something from her that she'd been keeping in her tent, so they went off through the mud for it, and she grabbed his hand. I walked with them, but slightly behind because I just found it bizarre. I think that was the final straw really, anything else I could've let lie, but hand in hand with her when I'm pregnant and struggling to balance in the mud myself was just too much. Too cosy.
I said to him, when we got home, that she'd been quite touchy-feely, and even my friend had commented. He just shrugged it off "she's always been like that". I said them walking through the field hand in hand made me feel odd. He said nothing had ever gone on. I believe him but I'm just not happy about it. It does make me feel weird, and is making me dislike her, when I don't want to dislike her, especially not now, when she's obviously hurting so much.
He is always the first one to withdraw from the physical contact that she makes. He seems to put up with it to a certain point, then get uncomfortable. I see her being touchy-feely with other people, but not to this extent. She also seems very guarded with me. She's interested in knowing all about me, but from other people, she never really asks me anything. She was very interested in finding out how my friend knew me, but only from my friend, when I started to tell the story she lost interest.
Not quite sure what to do about this, really. I don't know if I can just accept it though. It makes me really uncomfortable.