Would you rather have a romantic and affectionate Dh or one who is supportive and a great father?

[Bringbackmybonnietome]

Ok I know you'd really want both.

But if you had to choose?

I have the latter.

My DH loves me, works hard, supports and encourages me in my career, does loads around the house, is devoted to our sons, does loads with them we have similar interests, views on life and spend loads of time together.

BUT

he has never been romantic and is not very affectionate. I complain about this and feel that I am missing out on something.

I think I should just really appreciate what I have with such a good husband, but still hanker after the 'romance.'

Which wold you choose?

Dh is not particularly romantic. But he is very affectionate. But yes, I think I need the latter more.
But I do honestly believe that if you get a good man, they all come together, don't they ?
Yes affection is very important to me. I don't think I could cope without it. Even if I did have the latter.
Difficult one ? Can somone really become affectionate. They can remind themselves to be romantic. But afectionate ? ISn't that more inherent ?

I think you can chose to a certain extent - I have a mental list of characteristics which are important to me & I would not get seriously involved with anyone who doesn't have similar priorities to me.

Shortly before I met my dh I was hopelessly in love/lust with someone who I knew wanted different things in life to me. I ended that relationship & while it was painful at the time there was no way I was going to waste energy on something that would go nowhere. I don't want to feel angry or resentful because my partner isn't want I wanted, or, heaven forbid, trying to change them. I'd rather be on my own frankly.

romance is non essential imo but affection is non negotiable.