ahother codly q about divorces

[ShittyCatsLawyer]

have you ever( those who haev married a divorcee) ahd a horribel momeny where you totally see hwy the first wife hated him?
ie " my first wife hated xyz"

then you think
yes i do too

?

bozza - OK. My partner's ex was (is, indeed) always late for everything. So when the family was getting ready for, say, going on holiday, my partner would get ready well in advance of the time at which he would be ready were he on his own, on the basis that she would need lots help at the last minute if the whole family was to leave in sufficient time to, say, catch the plane they were booked on.

These days both of us behave that way still (though less and less), so we end up leaving the house far too early and being at the airport 2hrs ahead of time .

"Unfortunately, my morals don't include buggering off with someone else".

But why do your morals include letting yourself be badly treated?

lol
It looks like most many divorced men shoud have a 'health warning' tatooed on their foreheads...

my ftaher used to be in the car revving the engine, waiting for us all (whilst my mum was packing and getting ready herself and three children). It was bloody irritating and as a result I used to be late on purpose when I was a teenager.

LOL Kew. My partner would be revving the engine with the children he had got ready (and their suitcases packed). His ex found that annoying.

See - it takes all sorts and you just really need to be with someone you are compatible with. People don't necessarily have faults - they have incompatibilities.

Understand perfectly now Anna. Didn't understand it was about getting ready to go out together.

It could be about anything. But someone who is consistently late for appointments wastes other people's time and energy - it is very grinding after many years.

But if previously married men should carry health warnings, shouldn't previously married women?

Everyone has their faults and annoying habits, whether married, divorced, whatever.

You either rub along together or you don't. Small, funny habits can become huge annoying mountains after 5/10/15 years.

(2nd marriage for DH, 1st for me)

To OP - No.

BTW Cod, you do seem to be a leetle obsessed with divorce.

Surely anyone with a failed long-term relationship is equally damned then ? Not everyone gets married, y'know.

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Yes I have thought that and to my chargrin even said to him, no wonder x left you

There are always 2 sides to a story, you don't know what side your DH has until you live with them for awhile. Then their great annoyingness comes out. These days I'm constantly gritting my teeth and just feel like, why bother marrying someone else if you're going to act the same. Surely after a divorce you should

a) recognise where you went wrong
b) and buck up your ideas
c) and definitely don't say to your new wife, it's like dejavu being married to you! Well, same for me bucko!

i lol at anna saying someone is high maintenace-they must be really high maintenance to appear so to the woman who has 'fashionable towels' just joking anna!

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nkf, I've only recently realised that for a woman to split witha father of her children the rlationship has to be VERY BAD..

No woman in her right mind takes her chiidren away from theri father lightly..

Kew - God that thing about revving the car brings back memories for me. Grrr

Anna888 Are you the type of people who set your alarm to go off an hour before you really need to get up so you can have a lie-in?

And if your dp leaves someone for you, he will do the same to you!
Not always of course but sooooo often - just happened to my dear friend, when they started off it was all "he's been with this girl for years but it's all on the rocks, he was about to dump her anyway"
Of course a year after they married he was having an affair
But Anna is right about incompatibilities my ex drove me nuts with his unpunctuality, I couldn't stand it. My dh is anal about it and the way we have to leave three hours earlier than necessary for the airport occasionally annoys me but on the whole it's so, so much better that way

Swedes - absolutely not at all (but I don't think that that is remotely related to being a good/bad time keeper).

your poor sister, cod, it will probably get worse before it gets better

When divorced men tell me about their ex wives I usually assume most of that they tell me is unlikely to be true but Anna is right that what some people like others hate and someone may be okay as a partner but for someone else.

The HedgeW that doesn't sound like 95% okay to me. It sounds very very awful. If someone is efficient like my ex husband and reliable if they are also awful to you then no efficiency, hard work, help with children and the like is worth the nasty part, surely?