Is Marriage Counselling any good? And how do I go about getting it?

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I really don't want to split up with my dh but am so unhappy about the constant disagreements and rows we are having. Feel that maybe we should have counselling as we never resolve anything for more than a couple of days. Dh however is very reluctant so I haven't really pursued it. I don't know how I could persuade him to go. He insists that everything is fine and that we're both just a bit tired and stressed at the moment. I disagree and think he is burying his head in the sand. I hope that counselling could help us mend things before they do get bad.
Should I contact Relate directly or go through my gp? Are there any other organisations or ways of finding counsellors?
And does it help?

Batters - It went surprisingly well. DH is really quite a shy person so you can imagine my shock when I couldn't shut him up!!!! I learned a lot of thigs about how DH's mind works and how sad he is at the moment. I really think this is going to help us. DH normally keeps everything bottled up until he blows like a volcano. He found it really easy to talk in that environment, he felt safe (his words). Fingers crossed it carries on like this.

Counselling can't fix stuff in my own experience, if love is not there anymore. But it can help to communicate better. I went for counselling with my ex when I realised he was cheating on me and I wanted out. It didnt solve the past but certainly confirmed my doubts and prepared me to face our separation better. It also allowed me to make sense better of the crisis we were faced with. It helps to talk, always. Go for it and good luck.

doing relate at the moment, no quick fix and you both have to want it but is still hard. It does help to talk to a complete stranger. I was sat last week thinking what a complete tit he was, funny how you can look at them from a diff angle.

by he i ment me partner, not the lady at relate(blush)

went for second session was a bit better than first but felt more angry this time, its like pulling teeth with him. Iam giving ti my all being totally honest and up front all he does is avoid questions or carnt ans them coz has nothing to do with his fav subject, work.Its starting to really get to the piont where i want to tell him to shuve it where the sun dont shine

I understand exactly where you are at, having been there myself. I stopped after 6 sessions because I felt I was banging my head against the walls, he was lying through his teeth but saying we had different perceptions!
But good luck and give it a good try, I think it was after the 4th session that I realised there was no hope. But everyone is different and he may open up a bit later..

thanks fanta nice to know your not on ya own got another session tonite see what happens. I just get so fed up hearing my own voice even if he ranted and raved i wud be getting a reaction, it really is like pulling teeth. I feel iam putting in 100% and hes only giving 50%. I do know that you carnt do it unless you both give it your all. Mind you i might have strangled him by then,