So how often do your dc see grandparents? What is 'normal'?

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PIL regularly complain that they never see my dd. They live 45 mins away and see her at least every other weekend, sometimes more. They are not interested in visiting on my days at home (I work PT) which I understand (they want to see their son). My mum lives 2 hours away so we see her less frequently but for longer periods as we usually stay the night or she stays with us.
I suppose my worry is that if every other weekend is not enough for pil and they won't come in the week do they expect to see us every weekend and then when would we see dd's other grandparents, aunties,etc and - our friends??
I jave kind of lost perspective of what is a 'normal' amount to see grandparents. Things are fairly strained with pils although I (and they I think) are really really trying to make things work but I find it really hard. MIL has often been quite critical of us, telling me I'm holding dd wrong, that dd is 'naughty' - oooo and the classic - asking me if I'd 'got my figure back' 2 days, 6 days and then 2 weeks after giving birth!!!! - but I am gritting teeth and hoping things will improve.
So how often do dcs see grandparents? Whats a roughly normal amount? or do pils just feel its never enough?? I'm new to being a mum (dd is 18m so maybe I should have got it sorted a bit better by now!!) and I think Im struggling to make the adjustment as to what it means to have created someones granddaughter, niece etc?

mine see my parents pretty much every day.

they don't see their paternal grandparents at all if i can help it, though he has snuck his mother in a couple of times during contact visits despite this not being allowed.

OP's PILs are definitely mental. How much more often do they want to see her, FGS?

PILs live 1.5hrs away and see DC every 4-5 weeks for an afternoon - my parents live 10mins away and see them probably once a week but for less time (and often because they are (yet again) picking up the pieces when my childcare arrangements fall apart.

my mum - every day unfortunately (we live with her)

my dad - every couple of months despite him living 10 mins away

ds' dad's parents - never

The kids see my parents every day .. but we live four doors away. DH mam lives 1/2 mile away, ds sees her once a week, dd sees her once a month. Dh pa lives 1/2 mile a way, he sees the kids 4 times a year (Xmas, their birthdays and his birthday)

I think your pil are being unreasonable tbh - why on earth can't they visit when you are at home during the day?

Ds sees my parents probably once every couple of weeks and they live quite close - my mum and dad both work though, so do dh and I. We see dh's parents 3/4 times a year as they live 2.5hr drive away and that is only out of duty rather than desire.

Thanks for all your responses. I would love my own mum to be closer so she could be a regular part of dd's life - they adore each other but she is much further away. I try to accommodate pils as I guess dh feels like this about his own family.
Thanks for the suggestion about coming over during the week and then seeing dh at the end of the day. Great idea!
Mil is a bit mental ginger (lol)!! Lots of passive aggressive comments wrapped up as a 'joke!' - she has never said one nice thing about dd or me!!!!!

My parents live a plane journey away and they see DD about 10 times per year but this is normally for 3 days to a week stretch each time.

My MIL lives in the same country and doesn't see DD anywhere near as often. Dh wishes she took more of an interest. SIL reckons he shouldn't wish for such things as he might not like her being any more involved (SIL and MIL haven't spoken in over a year).

I'm very happy with current arrangement although wish my parents were closer.

Sounds like the weekday suggestion might keep everyone happy all round.