PIL regularly complain that they never see my dd. They live 45 mins away and see her at least every other weekend, sometimes more. They are not interested in visiting on my days at home (I work PT) which I understand (they want to see their son). My mum lives 2 hours away so we see her less frequently but for longer periods as we usually stay the night or she stays with us.
I suppose my worry is that if every other weekend is not enough for pil and they won't come in the week do they expect to see us every weekend and then when would we see dd's other grandparents, aunties,etc and - our friends??
I jave kind of lost perspective of what is a 'normal' amount to see grandparents. Things are fairly strained with pils although I (and they I think) are really really trying to make things work but I find it really hard. MIL has often been quite critical of us, telling me I'm holding dd wrong, that dd is 'naughty' - oooo and the classic - asking me if I'd 'got my figure back' 2 days, 6 days and then 2 weeks after giving birth!!!! - but I am gritting teeth and hoping things will improve.
So how often do dcs see grandparents? Whats a roughly normal amount? or do pils just feel its never enough?? I'm new to being a mum (dd is 18m so maybe I should have got it sorted a bit better by now!!) and I think Im struggling to make the adjustment as to what it means to have created someones granddaughter, niece etc?
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So how often do your dc see grandparents? What is 'normal'?
Sunflower100 · 14/08/2008 09:06
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