Being spoken to like crap

[Milcy]

Am I being OTT to be upset by this?

I'm trying to tidy up last night after having been at work. First thing that happens is DH finishes a packet of crisps and just slings the bag on the floor and then points to it for me to pick up I picked it up to avoid an argument and then get the hoovr out and DH shouts "you can fuck off with that, I'm watching telly"

So I left the hoover in the middle of the floor and stormed out and he said I was trying to cause an argument.

I'm still a bit upset about it, I just feel like he doesn't respect me at all.

No, Kally, I don't. It is very very easy to have your thinking warped to the extent that you think you're going nuts if you get pissed off at your husband.

I'll say something else too. The stronger and more independant you are when you get involved with shitheads like this, the longer you will put up with it. Nobody wants to be 'that woman'. Nobody wants to admit their choice of partner is a cunt. So they put up with it and zip it - not for fear, which isn't actually the strongest emotion there is, but for shame at allowing it to happen in the first place. And shame's a bitch.

wind up

Hope it isn't but at the moment it is hard to tell. Wish we had a symbol like eBay for newbies.

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Good lord he doesn't respect you at all. IMO a man who treats you like shit on his shoe thinks of you like shit on his shoe - how can you come back from that? He probably thinks all women are shit on his shoe. Leave him - seriously, he won't 'change', he doesn't care about you, he's a toad.

can't believe nobody has picked up on the berenstain bears mention.
I read this and went back to the OP to double check she was talking about agrown male and not a toddler son.

"please?... does anyone else think it's a wind-up? "

it has crossed my mind. Not picking on the OP and I am very sorry if it's all true but there have been several threads over the last few days which just don't ring true to me. This one reads ina very similar way to the ones I have been suspicious about.

Infact it's not so much that they are not true but that the person who posts them seems unable to take on board any advice but just keeps returning to ask the same questions. I find that rather odd but I have persisted with giving the same advice over and over.

I am not sure that this thread is connected but, yes the Jury is out on this one

I did the same thing. Posted "Is this normal?" threads and "Sick of being told to fuck off" threads.

People got utterly sick of telling me to boot him. People started thinking I was a troll.

I didn't boot him because I didn't want to be a pregnant single mother on a council estate. I didn't want to have to explain to people why I had had 2 children with a man who abused me. I didn't want to go through any of that shit, so I stuck my head in the sand and told myself if I just stood up for myself and controlled every last thing that happened in the house it would stop ..... and I vented here.

He sounds like a fucking child.

If he is watching crap like Berenstain bears then he is about 4 in the head.

If he is doing crap like making mess then he is about 2 in the head.

Cut your losses and get out while you can.

what a cunt he is

have you any self respect or dignity?

kally, I think it is a windup

and did from the very 1st comment

Milcy, I'm afraid you get the behaviour you're prepared to put up with.

How long have you been putting up with such utter contempt from this man?

My advice is: tell him you are not putting up with any more and he is to treat you with respect or you will withdraw your favours. Then every time he makes a mess or orders you about, stop feeding him or washing his clothes or clearing up after him, or having sex with him and stick to it.

But you won't do that, will you? It might be easier just to split up, but if you leave the house you may lose your marital home.

I'm also concerned about the effect his behaviour will be having on any dc.