DH and I are in quite a bit of debt but are gradually paying it off. For the last year I have been recording our balances every month so I can see the money owed is getting less and less. Last night I noticed 2 receipts in our room for items paid for by a credit card of DHs. Neither item was very exciting (just a shirt and some vouchers for a friends wedding) but I was really with DH as it was paid for by a card I didnt know about. I asked him about it and he as good as said it was none of my business. I feel it is given we have joint finances like a mortgage, etc. I asked how much he owed and he kept saying he had no idea so I have to be honest I did a little snooping. I found the said card in his wallet (the only credit card in there) and found out the balance from the automated phone line. It was almost £2k spent since Feb this year. I confronted him again to which he pretty much told me it was his business. I just feel so cheated by him. Every month I have been checking our credit card balances and we, yes that's both of us have been commenting on how well we are doing and all along he has been spending money behind my back. He has plenty of disposable income (way more than me) but also has expensive tastes and goes out alot. He is due to get a bonus in Sep and says he will pay it off with that but I dont think thats the point. I am more upset about the lying rather than the money itself (although I am not pleased about that).
What would you do?
I have to admit I also cut up the card and sprinkled it on his head whilst he lay in bed. May seem a bit far fetched but I ant trust him with this card in his wallet.
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How would you feel if your DH/DP spent £2k on a credit card
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Greatfun · 12/08/2008 12:12
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