Passive-agressive men, anyone have any advice?

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I am in a fairly new relationship with a man (6 months) but he is displaying what I have now discovered are passive-agressive tendancies.

He has so many positive qualities that I am unsure of whether to just stay away or accept it.

Any advice appreciated!

Im trying, now in the ridiculous melodrama that is my life, he has now texted saying he wants to tlak to me and doesn't want to leave things like this.

Do I let him come round and let him say his piece? I feel like now he's pretending to care and it's luring me back, cause against my best will I feel like theres some hope. I just feel caught in a trap

no to finish it will put you in emotional state so now he can play on that tell you what you want to hear and he wont change

i dont want to sound rude its been 6 mths let him go for a relationship to start this way its doomed you should be happy your not

yes you care but leave it now say its ok you will still be firends but it was right choice to be made

i say it strongly as looking back i wish id run on the many occassions he broke up with me

your feeling lonely not loved up with him no need for him to come round

Lol, I have that dress, after 2 years hanging in my wardrobe I put it on ebay this morning!! Its a good metaphor!
I guess it was so intense and for a moment I thought I'd found my soulmate, and I'm getting my head round the fact I was wrong

Totally wrong.

I am married to a man who is now trying to control everything in my life. he wont let me go to work, tries to even tell my Mum what to do! Needs to know exactly how much I have spent and what on (at Tesco's!!!). Am trying to work out what I should do for the best at the moment, but belive me with no kids and only 6 months in he would be long gone!

i wouldn't let him come round and say his piece. don't give him the satisfaction! don't respond to any more texts. he's finished.

yes , like dittany said, it's upping the level of control - he thinks you are slipping away from him, so he finishes it to make you feel emotional and then, voila....he is the one who can ride to your rescue to make you feel all better again.("you're not good enough for me. oh, go on then, i'll be kind enough to give you another chance" etc. ) a classic PA tactic, please don't fall for it.

and love the dress metaphor

no don't, I was with someone who wanted to do that after I ended it with him, relented, let him come over he talked me around after claiming he was so angry and upset he brought some comfort food - twat. anyhow I gave in took him back, then 10 days later he finished with me - was sad at first but tbh, he just wanted the control to end things.

DON'T LET HIM BACK IN!!!

Well he came round, and said he was sorry for being an arse etc, and he was scared that I might start uni and not be bothered about him any more, and that instead of talking he'd just bottled everything up and tried to look like he wasn't bothered.

It threw me a bit really as I thought he was going to come round to see how upset I was, instead I was standing up for myself and he was apset.

I said I wasn't interested in pathetic games etc and sort of left it at that.

good on ya - he was prob hoping to emotionally blackmail you into not going.

if he contacts you again, just say break up still stands - good luck in the future.