well we were all right it has all kicked of again

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oh dear. the holiday can only help though. what do you mean about the reading? he wouldn't let her read anything? i suppose it was time not spent looking at him.

threesomes?! your poor sis.

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oh bugger

You sound like a fantastic sister and I'm glad your sis has such a supportive family around her.

It's very typical that they say it's over with OW, then go back there. Lots of people on here went through the same thing with their H's affair. They promise it's over. Then go back there.

But he will want your sis back one day. I'm certain of it.

Just hope that when that day comes, she has the strength to tell him where to go.

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Is that the mate that your sister confided in about everything?

WTF planet is she on?! Maybe need to call her sisters ex-friend from now on!

Just seen this. Sorry to hear.. though probably for the best in the long run, sounds like he was running your dsis into the ground

Sister's friend sounds horrid!

I am with Urban, it sounds much better for your sister in the long term. So sorry she is going through this now. Glad she's got a shoal of cod to look after her.

Maybe your sister's friend knows he is irredeemable and so was trying to push him towards leaving so that he couldn't hurt your sister any more?

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I really hope she can find the strength to tell him to piss permanently off

Just goes to show doesn't it that you never know what goes on behind closed doors

She's lucky to have you. She WILL learn to smile again, and I'm sure she'll have a better life without him

Your poor sister. Losing the albatross is the best thing, but it takes a while to reaclimatise.

cod, sorry it's come to this but better sooner than later.

you do sound like a great sis and i hope the holiday and the family rallying around will help your sis get thru this.

if bil is an okay guy as you have said, appeal to his better nature and ask him to stick to what he has said.

your sis will be confused enough without him popping in and out as he chooses.

before long the mental breakdown will probably become used as an excuse for the affair. your sis will be inclined to support him thru his mental health issues. your bil will be having his cake and eating it with cream and ice-cream and a cherry on top.

he might not even intend to do it, but he will turn to her and she will support him.

and they'll end up in the land of limbo that i occupy 3yrs down the line.

clean break, i wish i had done so.

Carlsberg dont make sisters Cod, but if they did............ They would be like you
it sounds like your sister has had a double betrayal (husband and friend shitting on her)
Hope you manage to have a good holiday despite all of this going on. take care. x

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what an immature, selfish, twunting knobhead.

He should man up and not go on holiday. He doesn't deserve to be the centre of attention. Your DS and her DC need a break from him.

(IMO )

he's not seriously still planning to come on holiday ? Sounds like they could both use the break to get soem perspective , her on what a waste of space he is and him to sort his head out. Seems like a good idea to get everything in place but let her go on holiday before making any overhasty decisions. And dsis could well do without her "friend"

didnt realise BIL was still going on the holiday
Is he so selfish that he would do that to your sister?
She should take her book and read it as and when she likes and let the cheating lying bastard be as miserable as he deserves to be

When are you meant to be going on holiday?

Sounds like your DH gave him some straight talking which is what he needs at the moment from the sound of things.

That- and a bit of a shake!

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Sounds like he has been clipping her wings for a very long time Cod

Cooked?

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Can you do massive Book People order and get it sent to your holiday accommodation?

Good luck to your sis. Agree well rid.