'The one' - who believes?

[beanieb]

Idea from another thread...

I have never believed in 'the one', I think it's a weird concept, particularly as most people who do believe in it seem to magically meet 'the one' in their local pub or club! I mean, how fortunate is that?

What do you think?

Mr/Ms Wrong is definitely a real thing, & I think it's so important to teach children how to spot what's not OK.

But there must be a good few potential Mr/Ms Rights - not just one Platonic other half for each human being - and agree with others there are things you can do (and/or appreciate about the other) to foster the rightness (or not).

(Eg: I was so proud of Mr Bink yesterday - I gave him a John Ashbery [notoriously hard to make head or tail of] poem to look at & he got the point instantly. Which outweighed just about all kinds of quotidian annoyingnesses.)

there must be loads of people you could have a fantastic relationship with and feel like they are the one

syrely that is the important bit

believing in the one is fine when things are hunky dory

believing it when things go wrong can be disastrous for your emotional well being

I believe in 'falling in lust'. And why not, it's not with everyone that you 'click' or 'fit' sexually so when you find someone with whome everything is fab, then naturally you will fall in lust. Orgasms are addictive

I believe in being overwhelmed by your emotions for someone (often combined with the lust of course )

And since DS came along I also believe in some sort of fate/destiny thing, which allows two people to meet despite any set of unlikely circs. I believe I met DH all those years ago, even though it was as unlikely as anything, simply because DS was meant to come in to this world one day. Soppy, moi?

no, you're right. It's a combination of right place right time as well

for example if I had met dh earlier - and I nearly did, because there was an event I nearly went to where he was - he would have been chatting up a redhead and I would have been in a relationship

our eyes would not have met across a crowded room

as it was when I did meet him I didn't think he was a serious prospect, I went out with him just for the hell of it thinking he would be a fling as I got over my ex

I think VVV is right that relationships deepen and grow

besides that he is not the man I met then and I am not the woman he met; we have changed as the years have gone by (16 of em) and we have influenced one another, and that is what makes the relationship what it is, not fate or whatever

"whome"? ... sorry, got all shakespearian there...

I don't believe either.

totally agree with zippi

" believing in the one is fine when things are hunky dory

believing it when things go wrong can be disastrous for your emotional well being "