posie - it was quite high, but not dangerously so, and I was in the process of telling her to stop, was on my way over and DH was also there, as were several other people. She should have just moved DD away immediately and let us reprimand her.
She did feel mortified. But so she should. And she should not try to make me feel bad for her feeling bad by telling me how guilty she feels.
mad she has been a good friend and she has had a bad time recently yes, well, last few years, but how often can I make allowances for her? She is a good friend of the social circle iyswim, but she has become very self rightious lately, about parenting skills, about lots of things.
An hour before, she was telling me and DH how we need to instill discipline in her better, and its not about shouting its about tone of voice.
She did apologise, lots afterwards, I know she regrets it, but she lost control, and apologising is all well and good, but it can't change it.
I am trying to be understanding. But what actually happened it I felt so bad for DD, and I also felt bad that I did not say anything but walked away (for fear of saying something out of order) and did not defend my DD as I should have. So I feel bad about that too, which meant that as I told DD off for other things before bed, the usual things I would, get back into bed now that kind of thing, I felt awful and just wanted to cuddle my little girl and tell her I was sorry for not protecting her.
Oh I know I should not be upset, she did apologise, but it just shocked me to the core that someone would talk to another person's child like that, with parents present, like she forgot they were there