No more babies :(

[Spongebob]

My DP has just told me that he dosen't want any more children.(Although refuses to have the snip!! Coward) I had planned to have two...Have one DS 6 months. Although it has been tough (no friends or family nearby) and I also am happy with just the one, I feel selfish to bring him up an only child. Feel he needs a brother or sister. Am I depriving him if I decide not to have any more?

cranberry...

I too am feeling really down and possibility of not having another baby. Have dd1 whose almost 15 and dd2 whose only 5 months. How's that for an age gap!!! I am an only child and absolutely hated it! Believe now that alot of my probs in life - very shy and lacking in confidence stem from this. My older dd was essentially an only child though is really delighted about having a sister now - although one young enough to be her daughter!!

The thing is my dh doesn't want any more - his excuses/ "reasons" are - too old (he's 37), no energy, all siblings argue and 'Hate each other!!' He's one of 5 so our childhood experiences are very different. I don't want dd2 to be essentially an only as well as dd1 will be leaving for uni in 3 or 4 years time. Just long for another baby so much. It is like a physical need to smell babies lovely smell and nuzzle there little heads! Would never do it - honest, I swear, but do understand why women stael babies if they have experienced an awful trauma.

I think if you have one child already, you certainly should be able to cope with one more - from what I've heard so far, everything seems a lot easier with your second child - especially as you will have the very important "help" from the firstborn. To be honest, by the time your first child is 2-3 years old, he might want another one anyway. My husband hated the first few months as our dd wasn't doing that much, couldn't crawl, couldn't walk - stuff like that - gets a bit boring for blokes - now I can't separate them (she's 22 months)! We recently discussed to try for another one early next year and we also hope to have 2 more after that. Try not to be bothered with your partner not wanting more kids at this particular time - your lives have gone through massive changes and I'm sure last thing on his mind is more commitment but I really believe it's a phase. Mention it again in a year or so, you might be pleasantly surprised